| ControlYourHole(dom male) |
4 weeks ago •
Oct 21, 2024
lambsone wrote: My attraction to this lifestyle came from a gentle Master with whom I experienced the bonding depth that BDSM can create in the hands of a loving person. I've found that there is nothing like the drawing of the heart towards another when bound and flogged, teased and played with, giving each other the mutual respect each deserves.
I do not seek to be torn to shreds and built up again. Life has already done that to me over and over. And I belong to a God who loves me but won't allow me to wallow in my imperfections. He is constantly motivating me towards becoming a person who reflects His nature as He works with me along my life's journey. I do not seek the depth of the dark side of BDSM. Being a child of the light, I have no need to seek darkness of any kind. I seek to understand how to live in the light. Having been born a child of the dark, and reborn as a child of the light, there is an unending source of things to learn about God and His way of doing things. I struggle with His love due to my background but this past weekend I was finally able to grasp a bit of the reality of it and it's depth. A depth and peace no one can give but Him. I am on a different path than perhaps many others here, but no less genuine than someone else. I just have a different reason for being involved in BDSM. I love the D/s concept and find it to be a reflection of an ideal god centered relationship as revealed in Ephesians 5 of the Bible. I was very happy to discover that the two aligned. I seek to use BDSM to help establish that type of relationship with a partner. That's want I'm about and I take it very seriously. That's awesome that you are coming into deeper levels of love & peace LambsOne! I love the Ephesians 5 reference...true Biblical marriage is by BDSM definitions a "24/7 free use TPE M/s dynamic", but since that's such a mouthful I'm glad those of us on this path can just call it a Christian marriage😎now it's sad that many mainstream Christians would consider you and your Doms dynamic "dark" just from the bondage and flogging part, but as you said , total power exchange is actually one of the realest expressions of light. But worldly definitions of light and dark are totally inverted today of course. In media, government etc, almost every reference to light and love refers to THEIR lord, the false Lord of this world. And I see many people here with very intense and sadistic dynamics that some would call "dark", but both partners are 10,000 more filled with spiritual energy and light than folks in lukewarm dating relationships. "I create light and darkness, good AND evil" says the Word. So I just hope we remember to not automatically judge dynamics that seem too "dark and degrading and focused on tearing down" because many subs had their life built on AWFUL foundations and need a whole new cornerstone laid. From a Biblical perspective, A woman serves God when she serves her flesh and blood Master, whether she knows it or not🔥🙏🏻 thanks for sharing your experience! |
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4 weeks ago •
Oct 21, 2024
Yes ControlYourHole, and in no way am I judging anyone else for how they express their BDSM interests. That was never the point of my sharing my perspective if there is someone here who got that impression. That is the beauty of this lifestyle. We make it what it is for Us/us.
I just know that for me once darkness and hopelessness reigned in my life until I discovered His light. So it makes no sense for me to back track to what I left. But I don't view BDSM activities as dark, although I know fellow non BDSM Christians would. I merely see them as a means to an end that honors God in creating a close connection with the oneness marriage brings. We just had a conference at the church I go to on sexuality. One of the guest speakers was Dr. Julie Slattery who is absolutely against BDSM. Which is sad because it is so bonding. However that mentality of seeing it as a tool of the devil and sinful to practice is prevalent in the church unfortunately. And marriages who need better bonding will suffer because of that bad press. |
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| ControlYourHole(dom male) |
4 weeks ago •
Oct 21, 2024
Yep you are on point LambsOne! I didn't mean that you were judgemental, your post just brought to mind the need to break the false dichotomy about sexuality that well meaning people on different paths get trapped in. your last paragraph here about marriages suffering from lack of discipline and bonding describes what I saw everyday when I was in deliverance ministry (80 plus percent of charismatic christianity is women 18-30 years old so basically you become a relationship counselor as well as an exorcist lol). These girls wanted discipline and even punishment SO desperately but their bf/hubby "would never lay a finger on her"🤡😥and sadly these dudes who won't spank some sense into her also usually prefer porn to their wife's body, so that makes things much worse. But I don't feel negative about these young people's future at all- sooo many are now seeking meaningful & disciplined dynamics. The wheel always swings back around🔥
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4 weeks ago •
Oct 22, 2024
Sounds like the Lord has everything under control then ControlYourHole. I'm glad to hear it. Thanks for sharing your experience as well.
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| In search of answers(dom male) |
4 weeks ago •
Oct 23, 2024
I'm glad this came up. It's unique perspectives that I'm here to read and learn about. Very new and seeking my own "why am I here".
I appreciate everyones input and views. I continue to read and discuss and learn my way into this rabbit hole and find my way. As for me, I was titled by someone who's opinion I value. Decades of the life lead me trust her opinion. I do tread carefully to avoid pitfalls. I have to figure out how to not let emotions make judgement calls for me. I read something about trusting your gut, that resonated for me. Until then, I'll be lurking around to gobble up these informational nuggets that are left. Oh, the pizza and popcorn are good also! |
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