[intro 1]
Well technically you did write some smaller bits. And you did let me have the innuendo part...so I suppose that's some form of progress. I would recommend more content like the one I liked for your ear marking. Much more organized in thought. Still though, you're assuming my intent. At this point its simply becoming a quid per quo and we are deviating from the concept of lying that this post is dependent on.
[intro 2/ writing techniques]
I didn't talk to you about breathing techniques because I believed you were having an emotional melt down, I brought them up because you are angry as you've admitted on several occasions. Anger is very useful for writing impassioned speeches but tends to hurt logic and organized thought. A good statement written in anger is typically better when reviewed with a cool head after. Statistically I believe they are usually deleted entirely. Example, your first piece (the one I earmarked) was much better than your second where you come off as more agitated. Likely after having considered the matter for awhile. As I stated earlier you escaped the grouping of your subjects with a surplus of new lines. If it helps you try creating bodies of text with labels above them that you delete later. Its a helpful tool in sorting thoughts as they arrive. I'll include them as an example in this work.
[writing comprehension/ writing use]
I happen to enjoy a pleasantly above average reading comprehension. So for the most part I understand the words as you've put them down per rules of the English language and I don't require questions to understand the words. I didn't try to break down your work because I didn't feel a lack of understanding, I was doing it for a more organized response. These things certainly don't mean I get everything right but if I were to ask you a question, I have little doubt it would be ill received or perhaps ill used. Hopefully we can reach a point where my perception changes and we are both able to explore each others view more thoroughly. As for your repeated statements of twisting words, I am not. I am using them as they've been written in the context they've been written, taking great pains to you quote you directly in a body of work where such citation may be easily found in the corresponding body. Its considerably more likely that you are twisting words by stating what I am trying to do, when I am not. By inserting additional words, that I have not used, i.e. your apparent impression that I believe you to be a crying mess.
[Off topic assumption/ argument method ]
You are also assuming more characteristics about me. You assume peoples lives have not, are not, in my control and that my own life has not been placed in jeopardy far less than your own. Unfortunately trauma cares little for age. I've had the severe displeasure on both accounts more times than I prefer. While I do consider it possible for you to exceed my experience in this area, this concept is off topic and insulting to both of us to pursue. Its important though because again you've made an ironic statement about me not learning who you are, "Knowing your opponent", things I should be doing, and then you make the claim yourself. On a thinly related vein, you seem upset when I make suppositions on your thoughts : "You think you have the right to speak to me the way you did about my THOUGHTS" however again you have few qualms about telling me what I think, feel and intend.
[continued assumptions]
You are again/still assuming I'm trying to put you in some place. I am still not doing this. However I do suspect you are as you've stated "put a pin in my ego". I never told you to reflect silently, it was not an order. I didn't tell you to critique me, I said if you wanted to. You jump from suggestion to order, at a hairpin. My impression is that your very mixed up from how men, at least here, have historically spoken to you. You seem to have the impression that everything I say is somehow an order or trying to control you. Which again are assumptions you yourself are not checking. Questions you could be asking.
[gas lighting/ intro and citation]
I am quite aware of gas lighting. Its a very unfortunate event that really should never occur.
"gaslighting, an elaborate and insidious technique of deception and psychological manipulation, usually practiced by a single deceiver, or “gaslighter,” on a single victim over an extended period. Its effect is to gradually undermine the victim’s confidence in his own ability to distinguish truth from falsehood, right from wrong, or reality from appearance, thereby rendering him pathologically dependent on the gaslighter in his thinking or feelings."
Encyclopædia Britannica, inc. (n.d.). Gaslighting. Encyclopædia Britannica. Retrieved July 30, 2022, from
https://www.britannica.com/topic/gaslighting
[gaslighting/ argument]
The definition goes to explain important nuances, for anyone reading please do not assume this is the entire definition provided by Britannica, as worthy a source as I could think to find. However, none of this should be occurring on this timescale. Nor should you be questioning your own sanity, confidence, reality, or should you be becoming pathologically dependent on me. All of which I'm relatively certain you'll refute. Though I do suspect you will review the definition, and post a later quote in an attempt to install your reality over mine. If I am gaslighting, I am doing it no more than yourself.
[Ending/closure]
You are the aggressor here. Everything is a choice and you have chosen, in multiple premeditated instances as indicated by your separate disjointed responses, to reply maliciously. That is to say you have intended to defame, hurt and slander another individual over your own pride with baseless accusations. I am not pursuing such methods with you, I am calmly defending my position and identity by pointing out assumptions and falsities you yourself are stating. You have made this discussion about me rather than the original topic of White lies being acceptable. While I choose to be flattered that I am worthy of such attention from anyone, I am not endeared to be burned nor out of my right to defend myself. I again encourage you to not hit the submit button while a temper runs high, but rather from a more level head where we can find common ground which will not be from trading insults. Further instigation drags the both of us through the mud. If your intent is purely to shame, then its unlikely you'll make more traction than you already have. Our points if believed by any readers (should those exist I pray we providing some meager value) will not be strengthened by repetition. While my previous olive branch was keenly ignored, it is still quite willingly offered.
[Ending writing]
You have the ability to write powerfully. You have the passion, you have the motivation. try limiting yourself to a single reply per person, it will help you to organize thoughts since all points may be contained in one central body, and moved about accordingly. Combine more relevant sentences into paragraphs. Perhaps not as long as mine since they tend to drag on, weary the eyes, and allow readers to forget internal topics rather than assigning an accurate mnemonic value to each paragraph.