Notely
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2 years ago •
Sep 5, 2022
You will eventually find it everything is connected. Your imagination , intuition , visualization let it wander. ✨
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I'mME
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2 years ago •
Sep 5, 2022
aceaceace wrote: I'mME wrote: aceaceace wrote: It's definitely something I don't think about, mainly because that's not a can of worms I'm ready to open.
There's just nearly not enough good and competent therapist for all that shit. Hunh? Why would our kinks or fetishes [things we enjoy] signal a need a therapist? You took my post personally , that's on you bc I wrote the truth and that's it, it was not personally , it was the idea you brought up. GEEZUS. Yet you had to make a post back to me that smacks of wagging your finger. I do not know you, I was referring to the idea that you raised, your last few words in your original [ost. That is it. Nothing more , nothing less. If it makes you feel better to be that way, although you don't know me, by all means go ahead. I'm only speaking for myself. I never speak for anyone else and the question was posed as a question about the singular person answering it. You may not need therapy to explore the why's of your kinks and I'm happy for you. I do. |
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Dom Pinnacle(dom male)
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2 years ago •
Sep 5, 2022
For those that don't question why, could it be something you fear or are ashamed of (possibly)? If your kink was born through trauma, it may need addressing.
I have a foot fetish. I Love beautiful pedicures. Something about high arches, pretty toes, and all around soft feet that turns me on. It's part of a woman's feminity that I admire. That led to my appreciation for nicely manicured nails and well kept hands. This was born at around age 12. Watching porn, my attention went right to the woman's feet. The way she pointed her toes. It was incredibly sexy. Of course some guys go too far and become creeps. Worst part of my fetish is that I HATE seeing unkept feet on a woman. If I catch a glimpse I look away real quick and get the hell away lmao. |
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Estaria(sub female)
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2 years ago •
Sep 5, 2022
Dom Pinnacle wrote: Worst part of my fetish is that I HATE seeing unkept feet on a woman. If I catch a glimpse I look away real quick and get the hell away lmao.
That made me laugh too hard 🤣 |
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Estaria(sub female)
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2 years ago •
Sep 6, 2022
Dom Pinnacle wrote: For those that don't question why, could it be something you fear or are ashamed of (possibly)? If your kink was born through trauma, it may need addressing.
I have a foot fetish. I Love beautiful pedicures. Something about high arches, pretty toes, and all around soft feet that turns me on. It's part of a woman's feminity that I admire. That led to my appreciation for nicely manicured nails and well kept hands. This was born at around age 12. Watching porn, my attention went right to the woman's feet. The way she pointed her toes. It was incredibly sexy. Of course some guys go too far and become creeps. It's interesting to get others points of views on their own fetishes, thank you. I was just thinking the other day about the things I like and wondering why. I just had curiosity about if anyone else had ever thought about it. 😊 |
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Dom Pinnacle(dom male)
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2 years ago •
Sep 6, 2022
Estaria, I believe it's good and healthy to wonder about our personal quirks.
A negative about myself is that I can be impatient. If you say you're gonna be there at 8 and show up at 8:30 it can F with my happy mood. But I realize my impatience can be over the top. Why? As a kid I remember waiting for my mother to pick me up from my granny's house. Sometimes she'd be very late. That's where I get my impatience from. I had to really go back in time to see where that was born. And I've worked on it ever since figuring it out. |
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Estaria(sub female)
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2 years ago •
Sep 6, 2022
Dom Pinnacle wrote: Estaria, I believe it's good and healthy to wonder about our personal quirks.
A negative about myself is that I can be impatient. If you say you're gonna be there at 8 and show up at 8:30 it can F with my happy mood. But I realize my impatience can be over the top. Why? As a kid I remember waiting for my mother to pick me up from my granny's house. Sometimes she'd be very late. That's where I get my impatience from. I had to really go back in time to see where that was born. And I've worked on it ever since figuring it out. Hm...that makes perfect sense. Guess I'm just having trouble figuring out where my interests come from. Like you said above in one of your posts about your foot fetish. Well, you didn't necessarily say it came from porn...just that you remember at age 12 watching and being interested in feet. And I hear often people connect it to porn or previous partners or trauma of some sort or any of the other reasons I've heard. But I'm kind of at a loss and it makes me curious about myself. I think the first time I ever watched any kind of porn was at the age of....33? 34? My previous partners, not including my last one, were vanilla relationships. I don't think I've had what anyone would consider trauma necessarily in my life. But then I think....I like being choked....why? I like imagining it, feeling it, seeing it...I enjoy masks....but why? I mean, I think I understand my submission. I thought for a while on it and I don't remember feeling a strong sense of submitting until after my last relationship, but all my previous relationships consisted of men that hated planning/making decisions/etc. I think after having to be in charge these last years I slowly started to feel it getting stronger. Or maybe it's just always been my personality to be submissive? I'm not really sure, I don't remember being at all submissive in my younger years. Anyways, thanks. Just curiosity. Lol🤷 |
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Dom Pinnacle(dom male)
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2 years ago •
Sep 6, 2022
Estaria wrote: Dom Pinnacle wrote: Estaria, I believe it's good and healthy to wonder about our personal quirks.
A negative about myself is that I can be impatient. If you say you're gonna be there at 8 and show up at 8:30 it can F with my happy mood. But I realize my impatience can be over the top. Why? As a kid I remember waiting for my mother to pick me up from my granny's house. Sometimes she'd be very late. That's where I get my impatience from. I had to really go back in time to see where that was born. And I've worked on it ever since figuring it out. Hm...that makes perfect sense. Guess I'm just having trouble figuring out where my interests come from. Like you said above in one of your posts about your foot fetish. Well, you didn't necessarily say it came from porn...just that you remember at age 12 watching and being interested in feet. And I hear often people connect it to porn or previous partners or trauma of some sort or any of the other reasons I've heard. But I'm kind of at a loss and it makes me curious about myself. I think the first time I ever watched any kind of porn was at the age of....33? 34? My previous partners, not including my last one, were vanilla relationships. I don't think I've had what anyone would consider trauma necessarily in my life. But then I think....I like being choked....why? I like imagining it, feeling it, seeing it...I enjoy masks....but why? I mean, I think I understand my submission. I thought for a while on it and I don't remember feeling a strong sense of submitting until after my last relationship, but all my previous relationships consisted of men that hated planning/making decisions/etc. I think after having to be in charge these last years I slowly started to feel it getting stronger. Or maybe it's just always been my personality to be submissive? I'm not really sure, I don't remember being at all submissive in my younger years. Anyways, thanks. Just curiosity. Lol🤷 Life is funny in the sense that we're always learning things about ourselves no matter the age. Because you're focused on learning yourself more, a lot of those subconscious memories will pop up when you least expect them. So be patient. You WILL figure it out. 33 or 34 the first time you watched porn!? Are you Cinderella? But seriously, I hope it didn't scar you...too much LoL Enjoying being choked doesn't have to be trauma related. It could just be your desire to be dominated by someone with the power to end your existence, that truly cares for you. Most women want a man that's much stronger than them. Nature's way of making sure you'll be protected. Only if you discover it's trauma related should you look into it. But the two women I've dated that told me they liked being choked were submissive. Even though they didn't label themselves as such. And your exes? They may need to be with a dominant. Haha |
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Estaria(sub female)
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2 years ago •
Sep 6, 2022
Dom Pinnacle wrote: Life is funny in the sense that we're always learning things about ourselves no matter the age. Because you're focused on learning yourself more, a lot of those subconscious memories will pop up when you least expect them. So be patient. You WILL figure it out.
33 or 34 the first time you watched porn!? Are you Cinderella? But seriously, I hope it didn't scar you...too much LoL Enjoying being choked doesn't have to be trauma related. It could just be your desire to be dominated by someone with the power to end your existence, that truly cares for you. Most women want a man that's much stronger than them. Nature's way of making sure you'll be protected. Only if you discover it's trauma related should you look into it. But the two women I've dated that told me they liked being choked were submissive. Even though they didn't label themselves as such. And your exes? They may need to be with a dominant. Haha Okay, now I really am laughing so hard! You are the second person today to say that about my exes!! Lol And yeah, I didn't mean to say that choking has to come from some trauma....I just don't know where it came from in general. What you said makes sense though. So dramatic though, love it "It could just be your desire to be dominated by someone with the power to end your existense" Rofl And I hope those subconscious memories come to me, I'd love to quench my curiosity. lol Cinderella? Lol .... Just grew up super conservative in a household that 'doesn't talk about inappropriate things' and we had to 'be young ladies and act like young ladies'. No porn till my 30's .... absolutely clueless about sex until I was like 20 years old. And I mean, the first time I got the courage to look into porn I can't say I wasn't a little shocked. Haha Thoroughly entertaining answer, thank you! |
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2 years ago •
Sep 6, 2022
I like women's feet also. I don't have a fetish for feet, but I do like when women have nice feet. Maybe a half a fetish. But for me, a woman could be gorgeous physically, but if she's got gnarled up nasty feet, I just can't. I hope that doesn't come from my childhood. It might though. Now that I think of it. Cause the foot that was kicking my ass most of the time when I was a kid was ugly. There, self diagnosis.
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