Subs with mental illness

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){I Guess } • Jun 18, 2024

I see a few problematic responses here and I want to address those in a general way.

We don’t all have a mental illness but we do all have trauma. Trauma for one is not trauma for another, meaning that two people can experience the same thing and one shrugs it off while the other struggles to deal with it. Not all mental illness is caused by trauma, sometimes we’re just born with it.

BDSM is also not a result of trauma or mental illnesses or addictions or whatever else was said. People who engage in BDSM are generally happier and more emotionally secure than their vanilla counterparts. I wrote a blog with an actual research study as background evidence here:

https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=8270&postid=85751

Now taking my mental health professional hat off, and speaking from lived experience as a submissive with ADHD and Bipolar disorder, my advice is to be well informed about your mental illness. You and your D needs to have a deep understanding of triggers, and things that just happen.

For instance, Daddy and I played extremely hard for 3 days off and on all day. Tons of impact play, and orgasms and I was very deep in subspace for as long as 2 days after we ceased playing. About 3 days later I got massive drop, and ended up having a panic attack because I couldn’t find a parking spot at my university (such a cute reason). So now Daddy and I know if we’re going to play that hard it should be timed properly to accommodate the massive drop.

I feel that my bipolar makes me more sensitive to subspace and drop, so I do extra self care and aftercare.

There is always a risk, you can’t dance with the blades and expect to never be cut. Go slow, learn yourself and teach your partner, and be prepared to reach out to your kink aware mental health professional if you encounter major issues.

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} • Jun 18, 2024

Somewhat aside but relevant to research- have you read any of Brad Sagarin's work? He is a social science PhD out of Illinois and leads the Science of BDSM research team, which is a multi-disciplinary group of researchers studying kink and producing peer reviewed literature. I saw him speak at a con last summer and am hoping to get on a paper with the team at some point. Really fascinating work being done. https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/home

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){I Guess } • Jun 18, 2024

Wow, no I have not. Thank you for the information! I have been curious about studying subspace and drop but there’s not a big interest here in TN. Let me know if they need a grant writer 😂

InATimelyFashion • Jun 19, 2024

Mental Health people need those retreats should just be for the rich. I got the ADHD but I handle it with grounding outside taking vitamins but I don't take any meds it messed up my body from the high doses and gave me headaches taken years to heal. Dark Society big wigs they put crap in the foods and chemicals in water ya its making people more sick have health problems. But when you get tired of living in matrix not working for you time to go live your own. Just admit it try to do better history channel really released things. Once you break from the control you find your own way listen to yourself what you believe.

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Become nothing is , Live your own way's not by title nor by social media or society. Live for your own creation with humanity's career and life purpose of your own. Say goodbye to anger and allow peace to come in as you will see everything change around you. Old movie teacher had us watch in 9th grade fahrenheit 49 they take all the books away burn them they try to control society that people has to go in woods in to hiding vanish live off the land live better community life.

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InATimelyFashion • Jun 19, 2024

I seen in other country's they have better advanced help people walk again and helping people walk on their toes help people get back on their feet with any help. Other country don't have all the toxic foods. I work in nutrition I try to help people try other methods I not going around say do it but find what works.
What you seen from startrek , stargate , orville when the med beds come they hiding those things.

InATimelyFashion • Jun 19, 2024

Being on this planet as made people to much for this world many of us lived other lives before this I not forgot mine ya we gotta make this place better go get out of it.

InATimelyFashion • Jun 19, 2024

Also what about the Dom's/Switches so on well everyone needs a retreat.

Fallout​(sub male) • Jun 19, 2024

I would not be overly concerned with subs having a mental illness. What would concern me more would be a Dom or Domme with a mental illness.

InATimelyFashion • Jun 19, 2024

True unless they are handling it well not abusing their health. But also any sub should also handle their health and take care it. No offense if person does not handle their mental health is can make person Leave asap. Know one wants to be mess fights everyday over mental health know one wan’t to deal with someone can’t control their own mental health their no excuse it’s their responsibility As an adult to control of their actions of health and safety of their own health. Nobody can fix you nobody can do it for you they can only do it for themselves to help themselves and be willing to get help. Gotta take care of mind and body it’s your home here. Listen to your body don’t ignore any signs just take care of it.

InATimelyFashion • Jun 19, 2024

So called Doms that have anger issue’s call them self real Doms right off the bat feel they have a Authority over sub online or use Alpha in the name. Many them are convicted felon’s and hidden gangsters Looking for victims to use for financially and ruin you. They put them self to look like a alpha a man does have would not be flashy or talk about them self say they are number one. A genuine one show up have respect. The alpha pretend one’s have more mental health then the average person. Be selective who you talk to they act in anger and photo’s not clean have tattoo’s of gang run to the hills and block. The pretend are not even white collar they want to pretend to lure you in they look like guy half together lives in a run down shack hiding from the police. They don’t wanna get caught nothing to show got they will make you pay for everything if they can’t be secure for them self their a problem they only after you to abuse you out or anger and take your gold and run put thier name On property and cars in items And trap you til your bankrupt. They dress in clothes like got of jail and act like it pay close attention body language how people act and how they dress and how they treat you. Like they fall in love with you way too quick and want you now because they want you to move to them and then they want to take over you financially. They makes jokes of females and belittle but will never be a real anything of respect. They will trap you leave you under a bridge in a duffel bag.
Because they want to find their victims For the next Prey. Be cautious
And learn the lifestyle the right way. Don’t be prey and don’t just submit to anybody
What are jerks pretending to be a real dumb just to get off on that’s not BDSM that’s just a game. Sex is not BDSM it’s more than that. Cause of pedo a sexed up with anger. Block report don’t answer. Don’t fall for what you see in porn that’s addiction these jerks can poison you. Learn self-defense and learn kung fu learn how to say no. If it if you don’t feel safe where you are mentally or physically and they don’t make you feel calm or say so there’s a problem get out while you can. Call the police and never enter again. Because “”alpha male” is virtually synonymous with “jerk.”

The kind of person who applies it to themselves are the kind of people who think that they deserve to boss others around, as if they were mere dogs.

In other words, “jerks.”

If someone applies the term to you, it means they think you are a bossy jerk. The most alpha males are someone’s bitch in prison that’s all they can get.