Angel Wings(sub female)
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2 months ago •
Sep 19, 2024
[quote="Miki"][quote="Angel Wings"]
Miki wrote: Angel Wings wrote: Perhaps they are not patient and thought you wasn't interested or didn't reply quickly enough. If days had gone by maybe this is a reason.
That, too. But in the case where "a few days" of no contact have not gone by then it's just simply "ghosting"--- A familiar theme. WellI I hope a few days isn't considered ghosting because at times I am away and busy and cannot reply to a message. Or course if in a dynamic it's different. I am sure rules have been made and agreed upon. Casually talking with someone I don't see a few days going by that extreme. In the case of the original post, the recipient blocked the dude after what started out as a decent conversation. Who can tell for sure. I did NOT write that ghosting was "after a couple days" . When I mentioned "a couple days" I was referring to ghoster / blocker r reacting like that after the ghostee doesn't reply for a couple days. Ghosting does not have a set time period. People are busy, sure but no one is going to convince me that, with so many people who cannot live without their phones at their side 24/7, even use them while in the shithouse while taking a dump, wiping their ass or just hanging a leak, they're married to the damned things. So whether or not they have the Cage app, or just log in through the phone's browser -- that one can't find a minute to send a quick "I'll get back to you, I'm very busy these days" message-- or in the case of the relationship being a non-starter, a quick note to say so. --- is baloney. i They simply don't want to find that minute. ---------------------------------------------------- So yes, total silence, even after a couple days, and obviously any block at all -- can reasonably be called ghosting. /quote] |
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Angel Wings(sub female)
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2 months ago •
Sep 19, 2024
[quote="Miki"]
Angel Wings wrote: Miki wrote: Angel Wings wrote: Perhaps they are not patient and thought you wasn't interested or didn't reply quickly enough. If days had gone by maybe this is a reason.
That, too. But in the case where "a few days" of no contact have not gone by then it's just simply "ghosting"--- A familiar theme. WellI I hope a few days isn't considered ghosting because at times I am away and busy and cannot reply to a message. Or course if in a dynamic it's different. I am sure rules have been made and agreed upon. Casually talking with someone I don't see a few days going by that extreme. In the case of the original post, the recipient blocked the dude after what started out as a decent conversation. Who can tell for sure. I did NOT write that ghosting was "after a couple days" . When I mentioned "a couple days" I was referring to ghoster / blocker r reacting like that after the ghostee doesn't reply for a couple days. Ghosting does not have a set time period. People are busy, sure but no one is going to convince me that, with so many people who cannot live without their phones at their side 24/7, even use them while in the shithouse while taking a dump, wiping their ass or just hanging a leak, they're married to the damned things. So whether or not they have the Cage app, or just log in through the phone's browser -- that one can't find a minute to send a quick "I'll get back to you, I'm very busy these days" message-- or in the case of the relationship being a non-starter, a quick note to say so. --- is baloney. i They simply don't want to find that minute. ---------------------------------------------------- So yes, total silence, even after a couple days, and obviously any block at all -- can reasonably be called ghosting. There are very few excuses for that (illness, natural disaster, family crises-- sure.. ) The rest of the "I'm too busy" excuses are lame-ass crap, Period |
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Angel Wings(sub female)
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2 months ago •
Sep 19, 2024
[quote="Angel Wings"]
Miki wrote: Angel Wings wrote: Miki wrote: Angel Wings wrote: Perhaps they are not patient and thought you wasn't interested or didn't reply quickly enough. If days had gone by maybe this is a reason.
That, too. But in the case where "a few days" of no contact have not gone by then it's just simply "ghosting"--- A familiar theme. WellI I hope a few days isn't considered ghosting because at times I am away and busy and cannot reply to a message. Or course if in a dynamic it's different. I am sure rules have been made and agreed upon. Casually talking with someone I don't see a few days going by that extreme. In the case of the original post, the recipient blocked the dude after what started out as a decent conversation. Who can tell for sure. I did NOT write that ghosting was "after a couple days" . When I mentioned "a couple days" I was referring to ghoster / blocker r reacting like that after the ghostee doesn't reply for a couple days. Ghosting does not have a set time period. People are busy, sure but no one is going to convince me that, with so many people who cannot live without their phones at their side 24/7, even use them while in the shithouse while taking a dump, wiping their ass or just hanging a leak, they're married to the damned things. So whether or not they have the Cage app, or just log in through the phone's browser -- that one can't find a minute to send a quick "I'll get back to you, I'm very busy these days" message-- or in the case of the relationship being a non-starter, a quick note to say so. --- is baloney. i They simply don't want to find that minute. ---------------------------------------------------- So yes, total silence, even after a couple days, and obviously any block at all -- can reasonably be called ghosting. |
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Angel Wings(sub female)
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2 months ago •
Sep 19, 2024
There are very few excuses for that (illness, natural disaster, family crises-- sure.. ) The rest of the "I'm too busy" excuses are lame-ass crap, Period
I don't believe it's crap once you get to know the person and their routine. I'm glad I'm not one that seeks constant attention like that. I so do not mean that in a negative way....it works for me. I have always appreciated and valued my alone time. My job keeps me highly busy and I have been busy juggling more responsibilities which equals more time away from others. So at times communication and returning messages does come when I have time. Perhaps with the right person this will change,but so far it hasn't. I do appreciate your opinion and views. |
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Miki(masochist female)
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2 months ago •
Sep 19, 2024
Thank you. It may have come across more harshly than intended, probably because it's an outside-looking-in perspective as I do not seek any attention at all. Talk of ghosting and shit just riles me up. Blocking, personally, no skin off my ass. On my end it's the nuclear option should someone refuse to take "No, Thanks" for an answer or, more likely, starts writing abusive messages and shit.
This was a case (original post) where something might have been starting and then the one he was writing just blocked the guy outright, same day or whatever. usually, early in a developing situation, both sides will write or even call often. Once things are moving in the right direction, a healthy relationship includes one or both not needing constant attention. I was never in any "relationships" over the years. There are a couple-three dudes in here who are also "not looking" and those have been the longest running, most successful correspondences, but in all cases, none need or should write constantly. I disappear from here sometimes a week at a time and they don't mind the "silence". Same for them. One dude writes sometimes a couple times a week, sometimes once a month, but on no schedule. I do not mind that. I tell all : "Write when you want and if you have time. I'm not going anywhere." |
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Garv(dom male)
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2 months ago •
Sep 20, 2024
Ghosted or blocked, is this a person that you want a relationship with? Those abusive emails, I read them to see if they can find a really creative way to call me an "*sshole". If that were to happen, I'd enjoy egging them on, it hasn't happened.
Delete them and move on. There is life outside social media. |
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