Could you do traditional with the dynamic

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Dec 27, 2024

I'm not quite sure either, as I don't think you're bitter at all. I was just interested in where you were coming from and I appreciate you shedding some more light on that.

It raises a good point about how people are with their kink. Are they comfortable to be open with it, or do they feel stigmatized and want to have it but hide it somehow. That would be a great discussion in and of itself.

Although, the "tradition" OP wants in her dynamic sounds more like an aesthetic she yearns for more than a window dressing to hide her kink which she seems pretty open about.

As far as Yoda goes... you're right. Trying isn't doing or not doing, it's just trying. Nothing gets done without it.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) • Dec 27, 2024

I think Topeka has a point here. There is a lot of crossover in the Domestic Discipline lifestyle which is big in the religious Christian community. They even include bondage and maintenance spankings, called "reward" spankings. So this is just a way for people to have their kink while still claiming to be doing it within the confines of Christian morality.

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Dec 27, 2024

He does have point what said above. Gotta be more then 50 shades that wrote by the author people go though things have to grow and evolve with. Each other don’t think it’s bad but should came with take in moderation. Many do live they don’t have a belief don’t live for kink more a art a bond with trust. Feeling the ownership the steal nude below the owner with inflicted pain knowing their place. Every one D/s Is there one only their partner then have choice how they want to be only. Real raw wanting it owning up
To it with confidence. Not the dress more or level romance with erotica it’s mindset experience and training. Does matter if you like dress up
Or dress down I just like to good feel sexy not vanilla no religion I’m just me. Not here tell how people to live but maybe bring little romance live how you want be happy peace. I enjoy hearing from others As I do I have no judgement just that conversation is great with the creativity of D/s. To meet people gotta get out comfort zone bring your courage and bliss with you it’s beautiful.

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Dec 28, 2024

D'/s Erotica been around for centuries little spice some romance to tease the mind to arouse the rest. Creativity comes with imagination you bring someone in your world you show them can explore together. Find your passion with your seduction let it rise with your mind and crafted art.


“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WUTp5xZvNo
Not saying 50 shades was bad also had it goods also It was the authors real story and should had a note saying based on real story of the author and the Movies should been in same order. people go through things they both had to grow. They should said based on author life take it moderation. I never read the book but seen some looked in to the author they had to have someone else had to reprint the book better in English. People think it’s there life but take with that you go though life life is about experience it’s what you be in this life. Will be ugly good and bad he came back for her but she was pregnant as pregnant people go though a lot feelings have e to be careful she lose the baby he had a lot to think about but adopted mom stepped up he woke up went after her takes right person to tell you people that are close to you. His women did a lot for him ya not all men are perfect but takes waking up his Mistress tried to run his life she got jealous but when he found out his she got slammed in door was asked to leave game over.50 shades last movie freed. The book alone when came out did have any warnings many Doms told subs to read like the book back in 2010 it needed safe sane consent was not a training manual the book was about the author and her man he was bit strict but she had to show that she needed her freedom but he had to grow to know that. But behind this lifestyle we have are fears wants need and desires we just have to bring are safety with person we can trust and respect us also both agree on things. But movie alone reminds of the secretary how they met but to pair as a fantasy but more as real how you meet someone find someone on the same level as you they get you they won't question you they will show it.

Re: Could you do traditional with the dynamic

SageFlame​(sub female) • Dec 28, 2024

It was modeled for me and I'm grateful for that type of home life. I favor a traditional role and lived it for over 21 years. This was mainly because of the mother I wanted to be but it felt good to support my husband. I did the home cooked meals, homeschooling, planned the trips, mended clothing, provided freshly ironed clothes for my husband as well as packing his lunch. I relished the role and thrived in the multi-tasking. But I was married to a controlling person, not a Dominant male. There was little fulfillment if you get my drift. Though I still idealize the scenario of traditional roles it may not be simple for me to slide into that role after the lack of reciprocity in the past. Final answer? I would like to but unsure if that would work well for me now.