Sir or Daddy

Doug S​(switch male) • Sep 14, 2025

I prefer Daddy, but Sir is ok. It's a bit too formal, but hey, as long as you call me! lol

Sweet Ginger​(sub female)​{⚓ } • Sep 14, 2025

It depends on the relationship and agreed upon terms. A word/ title only holds meaning, (or should) to those involved.

deepandspiritual​(sub female) • Sep 15, 2025

I love Sir. It feels elegant to me.

A Minx • Sep 19, 2025

I agree with many here and believe it's an individual preference between those involved. One needs to feel comfortable using any given title or it just doesn't "work" for them. I think the why and the how any honorific is used is very personal and individual too as no two relationships are alike.

A previous dynamic found me initially calling him Sir. As the relationship progressed he became my Master, I wanted him to own every inch of me (but I don't think he liked that title). When things progressed even further over the years and we became very close he wanted me to call him Daddy. At the time, I thought absolutely not! I was surprised that he would have even asked me to use the term Daddy and was bewildered about using it within a sexual relationship.

Well, it never dawned on me that I may have Daddy issues... having a difficult relationship with my Father throughout my life. I never called him or anyone Daddy, I did not even like the word Daddy. To me, it felt like a childish reference (even when I was young), I didn't call my parents Mommy or Daddy. They were Mom and Dad to me but respect was given when outside my family, they were my Mother and Father.

Little did I know or even understand then that Daddy (and Mommy) has nothing to do with parental relationships in the BDSM realm (unless you are into infantilism, I guess). He was adamant, he claimed that title, he was my Daddy and he insisted that I called him that. It was very difficult for me, I used it sparingly but little by little I acquiesced. He loved each and every time I called, whispered or squealed in delight... Daddy.

Almost a decade into our relationship, I so loved calling him Daddy, he was my Daddy and he will always be my Daddy.
Rest in love Daddy. I love you and dearly miss you! ❤️

newmeforuu​(sub female) • Oct 6, 2025

Names that i always like to be called by new potential master ....Bunny,Cutie,My property.

DrKrall​(dom male) • Oct 7, 2025

At the moment I’m neither since I’m not in a dynamic. I don’t really care what others call me but I don’t like being called Master by subs I don’t own. The same goes for Daddy. I feel this should be reserved for littles or girls who are mine, not someone who sends me a mail or someone I meet at a party. Not even slaves belonging to close friends should call me this. Sir is fine if they want to adress me in a polite way or to imply being submissive. Sir is fine if a slave of mine use as well. Especially if we are in a vanilla situation where Master or Daddy could raise questions or make outsiders uncomfortable.

As long as there is no agreement on a power exchange between us there is no need for honorifics at all. But as usual to each their own.

Drinfear​(dom male)​{Owns PFP} • Oct 9, 2025

the question is as personally revealing as it is profound, honestly.. I can ONLY speak to My Own Personal preferences, mind, and would not attempt to speak for anyone else..
Personally, I worked My way through DOM, to Master, then to Daddy, despite years and years of avoiding that moniker, believing (mistakenly) that those that used it were 'less than savory types, with an inclination for unlawful objectives'.. To put it bluntly, though mildly.. Having had multiple littles in the past without realizing it, and now having one for coming up on 8 years (December 5th is our Anniversary) I realize that both titles have their place..
My little, Natalie, has bratty tendencies, though she IS, more often than not, a Good Girl..I never fail to call her a Good Girl when she presents that side, but sometimes, she pushes boundaries and deserves to be chastised.. At those times, as punishment, she is NOT allowed to address Me as Daddy, because she lost that right by mis-behaving.. During her punishment, for however long, she addresses Me as Dom, Sir.. (though I DO also use other means of punishment as well..) Her reaction and behavior when this is enforced changes immediately, and drastically.. Sir IS far more clinical and encompassing than the warm, loving moniker Daddy portrays and promotes..
On the adverse side, Dom, Sir is the way I teach girls that WANT to cultivate a possible Polyamorous relationship and join our Household and Family.. It displays their respect (though I type it in caps, I do not EXPECT such a display of respect until I have EARNED it from that individual, if that makes sense..? I'm not the type to DEMAND respect, but I KNOW I am worthy of it.. I have no problem PROVING that with time and consistency..)

These are just MY views on the subject, boss.. I hope it might open some eyes..

Dom