Why do some submissives enjoy a rough and sloppy facefuck?

Re: Why do some submissives enjoy a rough and sloppy facefuck?

subtlecyn​(sub female) • Dec 16, 2025

I feel like people aren’t paying attention to semantics and I apologize, but words are important to me.

Those that enjoy it most likely it’s not because they’re submissive, but rather because they are a masochist of some degree?

I say that just because it’s not safe to assume that every submissive is going to be willing to do that type of thing, there are plenty of submissive who serve without suffering in that way.

In addition, there are plenty of men that probably would like face fucking so I don’t think it’s just a female thing.

But lastly, as a masochist, I will say the idea of being facefucked is attractive because A) I do want to please my master. B) I like the feeling of being humiliated and degraded in a safe and sane environment with someone that I trust also assuming that I get some level of aftercare.

And think about it in this way, there are plenty of people who enjoy impact and other degrees of pain. So any kind of discomfort can be a kink.

thanks for coming to my TED talk lol

tallslenderguy​(kinky male) • Dec 17, 2025

Gay bottom guy here, with some sub.

i think a lot of the answers point to the fact that there is no universal, one size fits all answer to this question. It's individual.

i'm not a masochist... well, maybe a little, but it's to a specific type of Dom/Domination and it's psychological, not physical in.

Meanness, force, bullying all shut me down. As others have noted, for me, it's more psychological pleasure than physical. So, if i sense those things from a guy, "enjoy" is not part of the act, and i likely will not participate.

The same physical act where i perceive and connect to my Tops lust, pleasure, even need, and i'm open and deeply submissive. One of the more profound experiences i've had in this respect, i didn't perceive as "rough,' but as passionate. The truth is, i was the one making it "rough." Well, sort of. my Top got in my head and regressed me, and got me completely receiving His considerable length and girth all the way by coaching and using praise and encouragement. The physical part was anything but gentle. i was gagging, my eyes were tearing, my nose was running... i'm sure i looked a mess... and He wants me to continually look Him in the eye and wanting me to respond to questions, even though my mouth was full. His delight and pleasure, were so constant that i felt affirmed and approved of, which filled me with passion and fueled my effort to no end.
To me, that is the essence of a compatible D/s Top/bottom dynamic. It's not quid-pro-quo, or one sided. It's symbolic. The Dom/Top doesn't 'make' me do anything, rather He knows how to elicit and control my need and desires that in turn feed and nurture His.

subtlecyn​(sub female) • Dec 17, 2025

Yes this. If he enjoys it and shows enjoyment, it is so rewarding.