Bum play & impotence

Bum play & impotence

TheJackdaw​(switch male){Collared} • Oct 27, 2018

Okay so here’s the thing... I love the feeling of being plugged and pegged and having the old p-spot tickled but as soon my partner or myself starts working on my bottom, my erection just goes south. In fact, it renders my penis useless for about a good half hour after play. I would love for us to explore bum play further but i reckon it puts the mrs off as she knows what it’ll do - despite knowing that I’m enjoying it quite immensely!

Does anyone have any experience of this or any advice on how to maintain an erection during bum play?

MasterBear​(other butch) • Oct 28, 2018

Have you tried cock rings?
Vibration?

What have you tried ?

TheJackdaw​(switch male){Collared} • Oct 28, 2018

Hi thanks for your reply!

We’ve not tried cock rings so that will be worth a try. We’ll add them to our next set of investments. Any recommendations on good types or ones to avoid? The magic wand brings me to climax but doesn’t make me hard. Our smallest beads and plugs diminish my member all the same so hopefully greediness is not the issue lol.

MasterBear​(other butch) • Oct 28, 2018

Cock rings are very individual.

I would start with the least expensive and see what works for you.


I was suggesting vibration not electricity:)


Have you tried a vibrator to you cock?

TheJackdaw​(switch male){Collared} • Oct 28, 2018

Cheers for that. Yes vibes are great and they do the trick but fail to get me hard again - that’s what I meant about the magic wand. Haven’t tried eStim or anything electro play related

MasterBear​(other butch) • Oct 28, 2018

Try getting hard with the cock ring. Good ones vibrate

Reclusive​(sub male) • Apr 27, 2019

If cock rings don’t work, see a urologist about ways you can stay erect and hard. Penile injections are super effective and can maintain an erection for up to 2 to 3 hours until orgasm. It is safe and minimal discomfort injecting medication.

VWS • Apr 27, 2019

Does simply having your anus touched affect your erection?

Perhaps you might try having your partner touch and caress you there with the understanding that there will be no penetration. See how that feels/works.

If you do manage to maintain or recover your erection under those circumstances, no not jump right back to penetration. Keep going with just touching. Try masturbating, having your partner masturbate you, or even oral sex (depending on preferences) to orgasm. Gradual steps.

Does the idea (not sensation) of being anally penetrated by someone else have negative connotations for you? How do you feel if you touch yourself anally while masturbating?

Reclusive​(sub male) • Apr 27, 2019

TheJackdaw​(switch male){Collared} • Apr 27, 2019

Thanks VWS and Reclusive for your thoughts - some interesting stuff to think about there