dollMaker(dom male)
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5 years ago •
Jul 31, 2019
5 years ago •
Jul 31, 2019
@spicypineapple
I hope this is a hypothetical question, because in my view you are too new to have got involved with someone already, though those sharks can be very persuasive.
Before getting involved with anyone, and you can learn all about BDSM on your own, oh yes predators, subs can, they don't need you, you should set yourself your own tasks, and learning all you can from sound, well regarded sources of information would be a most important thing to do. With knowledge you can sift out the BS artists, the wanabes, and run of the mill predators, though clever ones might be more of a challenge.
Seek out books (avoid Michael Makai/Wolf), websites and You Tube channels (avoid Beg For Jay) to learn from, and do so every day. Learn and learn and learn and then hopefully you will be better equipped to cope with all BDSM can bring you, the good and the bad.
A great non BDSM book to read is this one The Gift of Fear - Gavin De Becker.
BDSM is not and should not be a race. Too many rush headlong into it and drown, either because they can't cope with all the emotions and sensations and BDSM can be like jumping into a calm river that round the corner is rapids and a waterfall (knowledge is your raft and life preserver) and that is with a good, ethical guide. Fall in with a selfish, haven't got a clue, all about me, fuck the sub (not in a good way) abuser, and you run the likely risk of ending up will in a bad place. Taking your time and learning before doing will help reduce the risk and help keep you safe.
Please take your time, resist the going mad in the candy store, headlong rush that sub frenzy can be.
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