Couple new to bdsm. Best way to learn

Couple new to bdsm. Best way to learn

MasterJ907​(dom male) • Oct 23, 2019

Hey everyone!

So I just got into a relationship, we're both inexperienced with actual bdsm but have both been into it for sometime. Ive done some reading, talked to people in the local community, but as for actual practice have almost none. Shes just started reading up on it and doing research, but has had no exerience with it prior to me.

So my questions are, how do we best learn? What would you wish you had done/been told early on in a bdsm relationship? What are some good resources for us?


I dont know too much about bdsm but I do know that 1.Consent is everything. 2. Asking questions, educating yourself, and learning what you like/works is very important. And 3. Safety first.... except when its #3 on your list

If i think of anything else ill ask. But any advice is appreciated.

PhatTongueforfun​(dom male){Looking fo} • Oct 24, 2019

Don't ever expect another to predict your needs. Express yourself fully

Duke Montefort​(dom male) • Oct 24, 2019

Try ABE's book BDSM FOR BEGINERS. Go to barnes and noble another book store and do a basic search.

MasterBear​(other butch) • Oct 25, 2019

Hello and welcome!

Have you found your local community?

Thats one of the best ways to get your feet wet.