Conversation Starter: Define Submission

Conversation Starter: Define Submission

KarmaCollar​(dom female) • Jan 12, 2020

Feel like things get a little stale around here sometimes, so thought I would start some conversation topics..

Not talking about Webster, obviously
subs:
as a sub, what is submission to you? How far into your life does (do you want) it (to) reach?

What minimum behavior do you have to (be required)
(to) do (daily or not)? What could you never do, even if you wanted to? How much autonomy do you need (or need to let go of/have taken)?

Dommes:
What's the minimum you expect of what you'd call submiissive behavior? Where does it start (real life or kink only)? What do you expect your subs to automatically defer to you and how much control over their own lives is "too much" for you, dimming your interest in them as a sub? What do you expect them to ask out loud (every time, or as baseline rules )?

UPFRONT: I'm not asking about generalized "we're all different, some do this some do that" answers. I want to know you're personal opinion/truth. We all know we're all different.

I'm asking what submission means TO YOU. From the most basic, small, daily (even solo) things to the max that pushes you're limits (and what goes over) as either a Domme or a sub.

Erick​(sub male) • Jan 12, 2020

Personally, I don't think I'm a very demanding sub. All I really want is a Dad who will:

Keep my recalcitrant boy-parts constantly locked up in very tight, stainless-steel chastity. Except for weekly milkings. Twice a week if I'm a VERY GOOD BOY. Two weeks or more if my behavior is disappointing.

Expect at least three hours of work per day from me for the exclusive benefit of my Dad and his household. Possibly a bit more. It's negotiable.

Require twice-weekly written reports from me about everything in my life that might be of concern to Dad. Including diet, weight, hours of exercise, emotional health, books read, websites visited, progress with hobbies, etc.

Require daily devotions to him, telling him poetically of my admiration for his power and manhood, and in pornographic terms how much I want to get fucked by him.

Administer VERY SEVERE paddlings or strappings--or both, what the hell--to my butt for any inexcusable mistakes or failures. Plus a day or two in the little punishment cage for truly egregious disobedience.

Require scrupulous attention to personal hygiene. Particularly the hygiene of my fuck-hole. Though, of course, my face should also always be ready for a spontaneous fucking. It goes without saying.

Plus: Require miscellaneous incidental services as required, such as : Emotional support and attentive listening (sometimes even Dad has a tough day), hugging, kissing, foot rubs, cocktail preparation, amusing conversation, Scrabble partner, hand-jobs, and whatever.

I want only seven hours a day for my own personal life.

Things I would never do: Not much. Maybe suck thirty cocks per day. I might like to do that, but in the long run I don't think that would be conducive to optimum health.

KarmaCollar​(dom female) • Jan 12, 2020

Erick,

🥺

😆

Very good (and thoroughly specific) answer. Thank you! ☺️

Erick​(sub male) • Jan 12, 2020

Dear Karma--

Thank YOU! I love it when a dominant lady tells me I'm a Good Boy.

KarmaCollar​(dom female) • Jan 12, 2020

🎭👸

MasterBear​(other butch) • Jan 12, 2020

Submission is like porn.

You know it when you see it.
Or feel it.
Or jack off to it.