Being a Dom and mentoring, the same thing only one has a collar.

Being a Dom and mentoring, the same thing only one has a col

GentleDomforyou • Sep 23, 2020

I have reached that point in my life where I am who I am, and giving back is more fulfilling that taking more. In my time as a Dom, I have found that being a good Dom is the same as mentoring. Both should be aimed at growth. A D/s relationship that doesn't grow, begins to whither. And growth for me isn't control, it's helping that person succeed. I help them with their careers. their self confidence, their ability to face difficult people or conversations in their work lives. I love to see people grow. Clearly there are those Dominants who see the role more like a porn movie where the sub is a more like a sex slave. Am I unique or do others see the Dom role this way?

Devotedsub​(sub female){His} • Sep 23, 2020

I'm not a Dom.. But as a sub, I prefer a Dom who will stand by me and help me to grow in different aspects of my life. Of course, in return, I will do everything I can to make him happy and proud. I think a sexual aspect is nice, but certainly not the most important part in a D/s dynamic. I do agree there are many who view the lifestyle as a porn movie where the sub is a sex slave and even a lot of times degraded, thrown around, and used as a doormat.... That isn't how I like things, which is why I am very very particular and careful about jumping into a dynamic. Plus, I think trust is very important.

LilAmethyst​(sub female){DaddyDrago} • Sep 23, 2020

You are absolutely NOT alone in the way that you lead, guide, and mentor. What "I" hear you expressing is that you crave more of an intentional, deep heart centered dynamic? Versus one that is based more around the sexual aspects? Noe don't get me wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with those who enjoy a dynamic that is designed more around the sexual aspects. It's what works for them and their dynamic. But from what I hear you expressing, that way does not seem to resonate with your heart. And that's perfectly ok. You're allowed to listen to and follow what resonates with your heart. I would like to encourage you to never water yourself down. Do not settle for less than what you deserve. Do not change who you are at your core to fit into someone else's box. Wait for the one who speaks to your heart. Who is moved by your dominance. Who can "see" the man that you are. Who loves, appreciates, respects and honors EVERY single piece of you. The right one for you is out there, looking for you as well.

I am blessed with a Sir who believes in lovingly leading, guiding, encouraging, and empowering me to grow and evolve. To become the best version of myself for myself first and foremost.

His guidance has taught me how to surrender to my own heart. How to honor what truly moves my heart. How to serve from that space. Which has lead me to living a more fulfilled and happy life, in all areas. As well as it continues to just deepen our connection/dynamic.

I am sending you love, light, and respect on your journey.

Draiocht​(dom male) • Sep 23, 2020

Well said, GentleDomforyou. Well said.