Kink

What made u get into kink?

I'm an artist

A woman invited me to a club in Germany. It was a new experience that gave a formal intro and classes on how to be a dom.
It was the first time sex/relationships/dynamics appealed to me outside of the need to constantly pursue and meet demands.

I felt accepted, was open to being corrected without feeling wronged, and could develop at my own pace.

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My instincts turned up on high! That's how!

Nothing "made me get into kink" I think I've always just been that way.

Like Miss Bonnie, it’s always been there for me. I just reached a point of being tired of pretending to be vanilla and being afraid of who I am. The kink aspect is one small part of a very large spectrum of what I love about everything BDSM.

Unfulfilled desires and needs in vanilla life. Wish i’ve done it earlier in my life so I wouldn’t be so frustrated and unsatisfied all these years.

My first sexual partner was super sex positive. He made would ask what I was “into” at an age where I probably wouldn’t have given it too much thought beyond just being excited to have sex with someone I really liked.

I think that was the start, and over time when I would experience the vanilla rougher stuff (a little hair pulling, spanking), I found myself wanting things to escalate. My initial interest was in the psychological benefit that came with being topped in a rougher way, feeling my partner’s assertiveness and desire amping up when performing those actions, the intensity. I eventually realized I enjoyed the pain itself. From there, the usual internet exploration helped me find new things I was into, more specific kinks, and the language to better understand my interests and how to communicate them.

I was very similar to Bunnie and Miss Bonnie, I was always intrigued by sex from a very young age and fascinated by the unknown which just made me want to know everything about it more! As I started having sex in my late teens I just instinctively wanted to try toys and bondage, I had no idea what any of it was it just felt right and exciting and it gave me a buzz, not that I really realised that was what was happening. I explored sex in a vanilla relationship and when that ended in my early 20s I went exploring. I loved Tumblr and I was following all these blogs about kink (I still had no idea what it was) I came across a D/s blog written by a sub documenting her experiences with her Dom, I loved reading her blog and at that point I knew that's what I wanted and what i'd been searching for without really knowing that's what I was looking for. I then found Fetlife and I just went fuck it i'm trying (almost) everything and so I did!