3 weeks ago • 04/22/2021 6:50 pm
acquiesced(sub male) • 04/22/2021 6:50 pm
I just discovered this label and it suites me more than anything else, especially as I wander into the sunset years of my life (because of life's experiences).
"A demisexual is someone who feels sexual attraction to someone only once they've emotionally bonded"
There are a few unspoken BDSM core principles that I've believed in since I was very young, this is one of them:
BDSM is not a 50/50 dynamic. Relationship equality is what vanilla people strive for. Where the dynamic is closer to 90/10, it becomes very interesting. Both can have experiences that typical 50/50 relationships cannot. I think being demisexual opens the door to migrating from 50/50 to 90/10. The chemistry (and thus attraction) is created in this process. At least that's how it is for me. Both of my previous relationships were with gorgeous women, but my attraction deepened as I got to know them.
Oh, and about sunsets, I'm still very active, I just chase sunsets now rather than wait for them .