I agree with Spenny. Find a local group and see if they have a website with an events calendar. Perhaps they have bondage demos or classes that you could attend. I also recommend using our personals area to see if you can find a match in your area. We're getting loads of new members every day so hopefully you can at least meet some fellow bondage enthusiasts near by who can advise you.
I been on fetlife before, and to be honest, there is a lot of fakes on that site. And then you have a ton of people there who only want to get off....i avoid that site as much as possible due to the game players on it
I've been on Fetlife for several years and I know from past personal experience that if I want to go to a new area and look for fetish events that I can use the events tab of Fetlife and find several different events in the area with names and profiles on Fetlife that will allow me to talk (by messaging) with the people in charge of the event.
The one event I primarily look for is a munch. This is not a BDSM event, but is a gathering of like minded people getting together, usually in a vanilla setting, to meet one another and compare kinks or where to find those kinks.