R*pe play, thoughts?

R*pe play, thoughts?

tonytonytony​(sub female) • Sep 26, 2021

I have a secret kink I’ve never told anyone before, not even my close friends or my lover. I do love the gentleness of vanilla sex but I noticed that I liked it more when things are a little rougher.

Growing up, my family usually left me alone and I have a lot of freedom. Also, I grew up in the technology of the internet so it is easy to sneak in and watch porn at a young age. Since I am an otaku (anime addict), it’s inevitable that I will delve my way inside the world of Hentai. (Cartoon porn). Most genres regarding it consisted of r*pe plays and forced things and I noticed that I get extremely aroused whenever I watch those videos. I kept on imagining I was the victim of the video I was watching. I kept on wondering how it would feel, to completely lost all my control. To be forced to give my everything to a stranger. Of course I had moments in my life where I experienced it before, things that were blocked from my thoughts. (Memories where I realized how aroused I was despite being harrassed against my will) honestly, a part of me still craves for that excitement.

I don’t think I want it to really happen but if I have a partner who can “pretend” to do it to me then maybe I will be satisfied. It is just so hard to live in a place where everything is so stiff. Am I a bad person for feeling this? Do I need therapy? Or is this, like normal in bdsm?

No Body​(dom male) • Sep 26, 2021

I was massaging a friend one night and a darker side of me came out while doing it. I started at her neck worked down to her feet and started back up as I had her leg folded up and her foot next to my head I turned and licked her ankle. The moan she gave me and the feelings i had made me start to lick and kiss my way up her legs and around to her back bone. I licked my way up then kissed my way down and around to the other ankle. By the time i was on the other side I almost lost control. I had to get her dress and out the door before I ruined a great friendship. It was two years later I did this with my new wife and was glad it was only with her. The raw passion and the power she released and gave was awesome and left bites and scratches all over us. Very few times has this happened but it was great but few women have what it takes to handle it or bring it out. She asked if we could try it again last year and I laughed said no because it is to tempting to tell a judge we where having ruff sex and it got out of hand. The things we do while young we learn not to do when older.

TranquilStorm • Sep 26, 2021

You are not alone with that feeling, because when dabbling into online role play this request is (unfortunately) brought up constantly.

Even if it is pretended/agreed in advance, i think it is better if it stays in the realm of fantasy at best. Risk of lasting (psychological) damage, toxic relationships and overall complications is real. Feels like a heavy drug. You might have the high of your life - or wake up in the gutter, not the same person.

I agree with the sentiment that we are at part the sum of our experiences and thus to some degree in control of our own kinks and able to enforce or damp them. So reducing your exposure to that kind of porn might also reduce the craving for it. For easier transition you can try to replace it with another less extreme kink (oldest trick in the book).

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) • Sep 26, 2021

It’s a pretty common fantasy - consensual non consent it’s usually called. I find it pretty hot too but I don’t know that I could actually do it. Would have to be someone I trusted completely with boundaries clearly defined.