Question for subs/anyone who has advice

Question for subs/anyone who has advice

Awholeneworld​(sub female) • Dec 28, 2024

So how many irl meet ups does it take for a sub to stop feeling nervous around a dom? I think because I am so into him like mentally physically everything I can get kinda awkward. Not the whole time but can't fully relax to completly submit and give myself over to him. I struggle to vocalise what I want because I feel kinda demanding and am not used to initiating. I was in the same vanilla relationship for 5 years and this is the first new person since. We have only met 2 times. I was much less nervous the 2nd time and was able to completly relax when focusing on him and his pleasure. Just felt uncomfortable him watching me etc how long before that goes away? Am I being unrealistic in my expectations to feel I can do anything with them after just the 2nd meeting? I am new to the bdsm lifestyle and this is my first D/s dynamic.

House Talion​(dom male) • Dec 28, 2024

Dependsnon the sub, the Dom, what the sub wants. What the Dom wants. Might take a while. Might need a basic connection.

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Dec 29, 2024

When connection good the Dom shows effect emotionally invested blue prints show’s it keep his word.