Loneliness

Loneliness

cherrypetals​(sub female)​{MasterD} • Jan 13, 2025

I don't know any people in the lifestyle so it gets lonely sometimes, i wanted to know what other submissive do to combate loneliness, especially the ones in the Ddlg/Ddlb lifestyle? I sometimes feel alone in my lifestyle.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 14, 2025

Check my profile, contact my owned sub. I'm sure she's more than willingnto chat with you about whatever.

That Berry Lover​(sub female) • Jan 15, 2025

Having a fellow submissive friend helps a lot.

There was once a conversation in the forum about protectors and someone commented that subs can protect each other just as much as Doms. It made me think about how important seeking friendships with fellow subs is, especially when it comes to companionship.

In my first few months, I felt intense isolation, even though I had a Dom. I used the seeking option on my profile to put out a notice that I was looking for a sub friend and a Dom introduced me to his sub. Meeting her was the best experience on this platform. We speak every day.

Having someone to tell things I would not necessarily be comfortable telling a Dom and sharing experiences with someone has been amazing. It not only made me feel less lonely but it removed the feelings of shame when I made mistakes because I didn't feel alone in my experiences.

I also started engaging more in online communities but communities are intimidating. It takes a while to find a place or group of people where one feels safe. I am taking it slow with the communities but having at least one person helps a lot.

cherrypetals​(sub female)​{MasterD} • Jan 16, 2025

You are completely right, i wish i had at least one friend who i could talk with and share secrets, that would be difficult to share with anyone else.
Its frustrating feeling alone and surrounded by people that don't understand the type of person you are.
I've had my far share of weird looks and downright mean comments about the things that i like and the fact that i'm a little.
Which is why the isolation is hard to deal with sometimes, but i'm positivaly happy that you have at least one friend you can turn to and help you when the loneliness get a bit to strong😊

Cello Trance​{for You} • Jan 16, 2025

I agree with what others have said. Reach out to people on this website. Reach out to other submissive women. Make friends. This is a marvelous website. I have met some really really wonderful people here. Caring people, loving people. Also people that have been through hell and back. that have been hurt but still find a reason to keep going.
Make friends. Do a search of other submissive women and send them messages saying that you’re looking for a friend . You can also join the chat room which is a wonderful place to just relax and talk to people. It’s not a seeking place but it’s a friendly place where you can just talk about whatever is being talked about. It’s usually just general friendly chat.

Steellover​(sub male) • Jan 16, 2025

I don't really have that. I have always been closeted about my needs to submit, and I have nobody I can trust to talk about it with who won't be super negatively judgemental. I fill my life with other things- hobbies, art, outdoor adventure, music, and things I enjoy, and have some good friends but....I don't talk about "the lifestyle" with them; that is a personal secret part of me that I keep locked away. But, that's why I joined this site! There are so many wonderful people on here who I feel like I can share my thoughts with who won't be judgemental. (And thanks to all who have been friends and supporters- fellow submissives, male and female, and dominants too- of both sexes.

rsparks​(sub female) • Jan 16, 2025

I am a single submissive, and probably older than you both, but feel free to contact me anytime, I have years of experience.

slaveJuliaTgurl​(sub femme) • Jan 17, 2025

luckily for me i am schizophrenic, so my other spiritual half of my mind is my dominant until i find a true human dominant. It would be called Two Spirited in native terms, it simply means he is the male half of me and i am the female half. though i am the original human, he is just as vital, and he guides me to reach the iron collar, reminding me the bliss and peace of the resulting everlasting effect once it gets locked on. This is more than just feelings or sensations, this is spiritual integrity. he keeps me away from drugs and harming myself always, always protecting, always keeping me moving forward by that chain to the collar. he is everything to me. he is my internal subconscious, my pilot, i being his copilot, will always be his greatest counsel, and when he loses faith, i remind him he is doing the right thing by keeping the collar locked and continuing to use force. i always remember one thing. i am a slave. no matter what, i will always be a slave at spirit, because if i am not, i am a tyrant because i am corrupt. some people are just meant to be slaves. so i will forever wear the iron collar