Can you grow to love someone?

Can you grow to love someone?

darlingdiana​(sub female)​{MASTER LA} • Jan 27, 2025

I’ve been thinking about love lately—especially in the context of arranged dynamics, even marriages-and slaves- should they be willing to be given to another Dom permanently, Dom’s/Masters who ensure their former sub is another’s responsibility and long-term commitments.
Do people really grow to love someone, or is it something that happens or should happen immediately? Sparks immediately that “magic moment” ?
I’ve heard mixed opinions: some believe love is instant, while others think it deepens over time through shared experiences. Some have no preference.

When it comes to arranged dynamics or planned relationships (where love isn’t necessarily the starting point), can love truly blossom, or is it something that’s only viable if it’s there from the beginning? And does love come naturally, or is it chemically driven? I’m also curious about success rates—are arranged dynamic’s, marriage’s more likely to last because of the societal commitment involved, or is the love just not there for them to grow in the first place?

Would love to hear your thoughts on whether love is something that grows, or if it’s a promise that’s nurtured, or even a chemical reaction that fades over time?

lambsone • Jan 27, 2025

I don't see why not. In the case of arranged marriages, this still goes on today. In the Middle Ages where gaining power and strength were the order of the day, marriages were often based on the benefits the family or clan would gain. Some of those ended up in love matches over time as they got to know one another better and lived out their commitments.

I think both can happen. You can fall in love over time or instantly. Love is the glue that holds the relationship together. Puppy love or infatuation are often temporary and may or may not lead to love.

Here is a love story for you.

My 3rd niece got married and the night before the wedding she told me how they decided to marry.

They met each other when they were 10 years old at a party of friends. He fell instantly in love with her. She saw him only as a friend.

Here's the kicker: he waited patiently for 15 years for her to notice his husband potential. He watched her date guys and get hurt by those who weren't good for her. He always gave her his shoulder to cry on.

He approached her parents and declared that he wanted to marry her and they were all for it. And yet he waited for her to choose him.

And guess what, she finally realized that he was the one who was consistently there for her through thick and thin. And they married.

So in this case, one was quick to fall in love and the other took time to fall in love.

The End.

darlingdiana​(sub female)​{MASTER LA} • Jan 28, 2025

Thats an amazing love story… very rare.
Thank you for sharing that ?

Master W​(dom male)​{Busy} • Jan 28, 2025

The answer to your question is in the research you've already done. You said some people say it's immediate, some people have no preference, some people say can happen over time. Exactly. There is no one ultimate answer because there are too many variables at play. It is purely dependent on the person. The situation. The person on the other end. Their personal relationship with the concept of love. Their emotional development. Do they even allow themselves to be vulnerable or open to love? If you can absolutely hate a song when you first hear it, but over time listen to it enough where it becomes something that you really enjoy, or not really be into a book when you first start reading it but by the end you're sad that it's over...you get the idea.