Is fear a kink?

Is fear a kink?

angelaffliction​(sub female) • Feb 1, 2025

I may be reading too much smut lately but I’m genuinely interested in seeing if being scared he arousing

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Feb 1, 2025

The question is whether it is a kink or is it an addiction.

That is why we have so many modern horror movies, people are addicted to the adrenaline rush.

Fear is also a control tool. Pretty crappy one to me, though. However, effective.

angelaffliction​(sub female) • Feb 1, 2025

You’re right it probably is more of the adrenaline rush that is exciting from it because I don’t know if if actually like to be scared if it wasn’t in a controlled setting

CottageGardenGal​(masochist female) • Feb 1, 2025

It have to be someone that you trust that is safe set your limits. But best to in training setting with someone that grow trust first. You should not do right away if you not tried it should be worked through first. Like lets say knife play you don't have to use a real one you can use a fake one. Do as role play not something that should be really forced but work in but that you both agree on. You have to learn bit of maso things simple way to the soft to some hard not all pain is the same their should be limit you will take. Fear play not for all it should be taking in baby steps. Never do it as addiction. If you do this you need to take cautious way's learn safety first work way in have safe words also. Practice some kind of ravage that is simple to work with fear play don't do anything that would harm you tho. Anyone that does out of anger should not be doing to you this should be out of caring for the sub only. Educate self and learn step by step and practice with the person til you both get better. If does work out try something else. Don't do cause you see in a video but learn first but someone you trust not just a stranger trust is the main key and respect with contamination still need safe and sane consent when it times to stop. But a hood is good to be used as learning but still able to see and breathe of sensory derivation worked in to one way to take some pain but not pain that would hurt. Beware anyone trying to cut you or blood if your not in it that why you must set rules. Even a sub must speak up for your feelings. Scathing or just pretend would be best so it does not damage the body. Always go by gut feeling and effect and bluer prints not sweet words. Anyone that rushes you not the one to do this with someone that takes slow would be best. If its rushed could be harm and would be leading rushed to the Er know one wants someone get hurt good Dom would not try to harm would want to keep you in in tacked do after care.

Not all pain is the same.
https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=169344&postid=99347
Sado promise to a Maso
https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=169344&postid=99345

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Feb 1, 2025

Fear is absolutely a kink (or, at least, close enough to qualify in the awkward realm of how we define things). I have been utilizing the fear kink to great effect for almost two decades (fear kink is kind of what got me started in the lifestyle).

I'm sure that someone has pointed this out already, but it is not the kind of play you want to engage in without proper preparation (Which may seem counterintuitive when you think about it). It really requires both deep trust and an innate ability to embody a fearsome aspect on the part of the engager, and to let go on the part of the engagee. It can be a lot of work to get to the point where it is both safe and effective, but once you find someone who knows what they are doing, it is well worth the effort.

JaredMayer​(dom male) • Feb 2, 2025

I haven't engaged in that kind of thing myself, but having spoken with a lot of s-types I'm pretty sure being made to be afraid of their D-type (in certain circumstances) is definitely a kink for some.

It makes sense. Intensity of emotions, even ones we often label as "negative", can be very exciting or even help us process our trauma. The appeal of being a sadist, to me, is experiencing the intensity of pain, anticipation, helplessness, and disgust vicariously through the bottom and then being there to comfort them afterwards.

Brains be weird like that, yo.

Mistress Kassandra​(dom female) • Feb 2, 2025

Certainly fear of the lash excites many slaves and submissives even many who are not sadists. Seeling that fear does give me a sense of power as well.

Whether or not that makes fear a kink itself or a facet of another kink is just a matter of semantics in my not very humble opinion

Cello Trance​{for You} • Feb 2, 2025

I think there’s a lot of fear that is part of this lifestyle which is why you would want to engage with CNC or sado/ maso with someone you know. I mean, I’m not really speaking much from experience since I’m more of a daddy Dom, but I would imagine fear is a part of those kinks… I’m unsure if it is a kink in of itself, but that’s probably for greater minds than mine to determine

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Feb 2, 2025

I've always found the use of fear as a control measure rather idiotic.

I can much more from an s type by trust and proper communication so I can do horrible things to them. Wanting to give is much more intoxicating than taking.

CottageGardenGal​(masochist female) • Feb 3, 2025

Responsible Fear Play
https://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/