Submissives offering strength and support.

Submissives offering strength and support.

Ingénue​{VK} • Apr 2, 2025

In what ways do submissives do this for their Dominants?


Might seem like an obvious question with (perhaps) obvious answers

I'm interested nonetheless in people's views/experiences

bdsamworld​(sub female)​{collared} • Apr 2, 2025

While it can range from person to person, there are some things that always remain the same for me:
- being their "cheerleader" (not the roleplay kind hahaha)
- giving them space when they need it or opposite being around more when they just need someone to listen to them (this is when brat ears always listen), give advice where needed, and help when and if I can.

The next few are specific to me because it's just who I am:
- cooking/baking for them when they have a tough schedule or ordering food
- organizing whatever chaos needs to be organized (typically files, bookshelves, email inboxes, or whatever other items need to be organized)
- procuring random things: speciality sex toys, specific construction hardware, and parts for cars.
- creating spreadsheets and documents for fun outings (not just for me and my partner, but sometimes for their other partners)

Really anything that could be time consuming for my partner I would do for them when asked. As far as emotional support as I've mentioned above just listening to them, ACTIVELY listening. Not just listening to respond. And if they have a problem that can be solved working with them to resolve it. That's another thing so many people experience, having to solve problems all on their own when they actually need help. Now if that Dominant says they don't need help, then I check in with them here and there.

I've mainly been a long distance submissive/slave for almost all of my dynamics. Some have been in person but it's still the same thing just with some physical hugs during times when a hug is necessary.

Phage'Hadar​(dom male) • Apr 2, 2025

Consistent verbal as well as physical action reminders that they are wanted, and needed. Maybe more....

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Apr 3, 2025

As far as strength goes, he needs to be reminded of his own.
Support is truly believing in someone.
Having someone who doesn't doubt him, he can believe in himself again.
It's like pygmalia. Even if he's on the floor don't treat him like he is. Treat him with the same respect and dignity he earned from you in the beginning.
Be all the warmth and comfort you are but don't enable or pity him.
Leave him in his darkness and solitude. Sometimes he needs to be there. He'll come out on his own.
Feed him, check on him and do what he'll let you do for him, but don't try to rescue him.
Just being present for him is more than you might know.

MasterDarcy​(dom male) • Apr 3, 2025

Generally, I would categorize it as encouragement and emotional cheerleading (if you have a cheerleader uniform, all the better).

I'd say that support and offering strength should be mutual between the people in said dynamic.

Communication is also a massive way of showing support. Listening is a very underrated activity. You don't have to understand what the other person is going through, but as long as you're showing that you care by listening and showing genuine empathy, it can mean everything in the world.

bdsamworld​(sub female)​{collared} • Apr 3, 2025

@MasterDarcy - Active listening, not just listening to respond. Yes, very underrated.

MasterDarcy​(dom male) • Apr 3, 2025

Exactly.

I was actually going to edit my post with the word "active" but I'm new here. I'm not even sure if there is an edit function.

But yeah. Active listening is extremely important. It's amazing how many people out there who are so self absorbed that the mere term is foreign to them.