Just beginning to explore femdom with partner who is primarily dominant

Just beginning to explore femdom with partner who is primarily dominant

Mmyqt​(dom female) • Jul 27, 2025

My partner and I are exploring our kinks and he recently has said he would occasionally like me to take on the role of dominant partner/mommy

I am usually very submissive and am very comfortable there but do realize I have an interest and the ability to switch.

I need some advice on where to start. If I can incorporate the mommy/dom roll or if they are different and some specific questions I can ask him to help me determine what will give him the best experience.

Re: Just beginning to explore femdom with partner who is primarily dominant

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Jul 27, 2025

Not trying to gate keep or correct you but just to give you some terminology that will help you in your search. My point is more to get you the direction you're looking for FASTER. Sometimes when we search for information, it can be the terminology that makes for a world of difference.

what you need is topping or switching info, NOT FEMDOM since you want your roles to SWITCH (or that's how I read it?) . Femdom is a niche of Mixed BDSM it is a SET role and isn't fluid. In Femdom men only have one role that of submissive or slave. Men dont bottom (switch) and Domme role doesn't dropped, it is not fluid and is locked in. MaleDom is the reverse of Femdom and also a niche of BDSM. A Maledom participant wont switch roles.

Google "switching" and "Female top" and you'll loads of resources. Here at thecage is also a great place to ask more directed question that are more pinpointed. The people here are pretty good with supporting others. Check out the magazine too. loads of articles

I'm not into age play (nothing against it, just not my thing) but can't see why you can't incorporate it. You can make anything work in your personal dynamic. The great thing is BDSM isn't a one size fits all. Hoping someone jumps in that has the same dynamic as you want.

I think asking your partner what he wants and where wants to start is maybe the best idea. I'd suggesting having a scene negotiation chat (what he wants, what you'll do: the areas you intersect is where you play)

Hope it works out for you and you get the answers you need

pioneer man​(sub male) • Jul 27, 2025

mmyqt:

After reading the post by MissBonnie, she has said it very accurately. It's important to decide, with mutual consent, what your roles will be. Any dynamic can be extremely enjoyable if both of you are inagreement.

I've been aFemdom sub for years and in this lifestyle, quite frankly, it must be a committment - switching likely can cause problems. Although, as in most dynamics, I'm sure someone has made it work for a while.

We've attended erotic events for many years and met people in different lifestyles who enjoy their dynamics due to taking the time to research the pros & cons. That's what we did - our liffestyle did not devlope overnight, but over a long period of trial & error.