The Sweet Spot: When Does 'Too Much' Pain Become Exactly Right?

hey deviants,

As a sadist who thrives on pushing edges without breaking them, I’m curious about that razor-thin line where pain flips from "overwhelming/nope" to "fuck yes, more, please don't stop."

For the masochists/subs here: What's the moment or specific sensation/technique that makes suffering click into pleasure for you? Is it the buildup, the type of implement, the psychological layer (humiliation, objectification, fear), or something else entirely? Share an example if you're comfortable—did a particular scene or implement finally unlock that subspace/high?

For fellow sadists/doms: How do you read that shift in real time? Do you have go-to cues (breathing, body language, begging patterns) or tools (canes vs. floggers vs. mindfuckery) that reliably tip someone over into craving the cruelty?

And for everyone: Have you ever misjudged the line and had to pull back hard? What did you learn?

No judgment here—just genuine curiosity from someone who loves crafting torment that leaves them begging for round two. Let's discuss.

Thoughts? Experiences? 😈

it has had torturing sadist Doms, it has never used a safe word or begged. Apparently, it is a pain pig.

I am not into "the physical" these days, but when I was, it definitely was big plus to be in bondage, objectified and humiliated.

It all combined with the pain to make any "session" especially erotic for me.

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I don't feel up to relating specific examples, that is write about "the old days". I was never into reading or writing erotica or BDSM experiences.

Also, my examples may be too pedestrian to most dominants with a "sadist mode" but that was my experience in those days.