First time buying toys: need advice on safe materials

So.. I'm getting ready to buy my first ever sex toys... I tried doing some research on safe/unsafe materials.
This is what I found so far (on reddit lol):
* Toxic aka "absolutely don't": Jelly / Jellee / Gel; Rubber / skin safe rubber; CyberSkin / UR3 / Futurotic / Fanta Flesh / Neoskin / FauxFlesh / Sil-A-Gel; Vinyl and PVC
* Porous aka "no matter how hard you wash them bacteria will nest there": Elastomer; TPR-silicone or SEBS – anything referred to as a "silicone blend"; TPE – thermoplastic elastomer; TPR – thermoplastic rubber
* Body Safe: Silicone (especially if it says "medical grade silicone"); Stainless steel; ABS plastic; Glass; Wood (with certain treatments/finishes); Aluminum; Titanium; Ceramic; Stone (certain types/with certain treatments/finishes)

Would you agree with this list? How big is the actual danger for porous materials?
My planned expenses already went up because some of the cheaper toys that I aimed for, as it turns out, are in the toxic category.
Also, are there no safe masturbators/fleshlights? They're all TPR and TPE from what I can see.

UPD: Also, what's the difference between normal lube, "anal" lube and "toys" lube? Which one is universal - toys or anal one?

I would put wood in the porous category. I wouldn't trust any finish on it except maybe certain types of epoxy, which might also contain toxins.