Subs that has had douche' bags as Doms

Subs that has had douche' bags as Doms

Cool Wolf​(dom male) • Jul 23, 2018

Time and time again I hear stories from sub women that their Doms turned out to be jerks. Has anyone else had that experience?

Bunnie • Jul 23, 2018

A Dom/me putting down other Dom/mes, doesn’t necessarily make that Dom/me a good Dom/me... and by no means does it automatically make them a better Dominant than others. In my eyes, the things that make a Dominant great are their actions and behaviours... not in comparison to others, but as a representation of themselves, as a person. Exactly the same as a sub. High levels of respect from me (beyond social politeness), are given to those that I have observed, and who behave in a way that I admire. So, in regards to that, I guess I’m wondering if you’re creating a space here where people can help to share and heal from some of the negative experiences they’ve had... or if it’s just an attempt at belittling and putting down other Doninants? Because as with any other area of life, there are good and bad people, so yes there will be people who’ve had bad experiences with “douchebag Dom/mes,” just as I have many Dominant friends who’ve had bad experiences with “douchebag subs.”

Cool Wolf​(dom male) • Jul 23, 2018

We will respect that opinion.

Asteria​(neither female) • Jul 23, 2018

Very nice way to make yourself feel a bit better, I have to admit. I am assuming that you are a role model for every single Dominant, someone who has never made any mistake, right? (that's sarcasm, obviously).

Trust me, submissives do talk about their experiences, but with those who deserve their trust (see: friends).

FabSeverus​(dom male) • Jul 23, 2018

Nope! you must attract them?
You talking about how many roughtly please? because to generalise that quickly it must be a big number?

Kara​(sub female)​{Dark Roast} • Jul 23, 2018

You are talking to submissives without a Dom. Obviously there were issues, or they would still be with them. Also, as an English minor, unless talking about a solitary submissive, it's "have", not "has".

curiouskittyy​(sub female)​{GentlemanX} • Jul 23, 2018

Hmm ? I tend to agree with the comments already written above so I won’t bother to repeat the same opinions. However, I do not think it is very nice to cristicise someone else’s grammar on a public forum. Perhaps English isn’t their first language or they have a learning disability, which makes writing more of a challenge? Maybe something just to take into consideration x

Kara​(sub female)​{Dark Roast} • Jul 23, 2018

The meaning is unclear. I wasn't sure if he was talking about a solitary submissive without luck or many unfortunate women. It was not meant as critism, but pre-coffee confusion.

curiouskittyy​(sub female)​{GentlemanX} • Jul 23, 2018

That’s fair enough then - as someone who suffers from dyslexia myself - I just wanted to point that out. It’s one of those “pet hates” I have , and thus cannot help but comment on x

Cithaeria • Jul 23, 2018

Please define what you mean as douchebag? Playing the blame game is a slippery slope.