Ep201 : Tips and ideas for men who tie men: An interview with Bondage Otter (part1)

BondageOtter (he/they) is a queer leatherman and rope switch who maintains a private S/M practice while organizing public education and play programs for the community of people who want to tie masc-of-center bodies. His education seeks to fuse Japanese aesthetics with the erotics of gay leather culture. The podcast hosts talked to him about how his rope experience in that culture is different from the cis-het/pansexual community, and the unique perspective that, along with hie experience living in Japan and running events, gives him. He also shares some of the implications for tops and bottoms when you primarily tie men. With huge energy, a refreshingly direct and open perspective on rope and sexuality, and strong self-reflection, Bondage Otter is a delight to listen to. In the episode you can hear more about: • His rope journey • A great tip to break into the kink community • Three things he loves about rope • How shame and embarrassment figure in his play • What he does to blend Japanese aesthetics and gay leather culture • How he adapts Eastern aesthetic principles to be sustainable for larger body types • How he ‘reads’ a new partner for pick-up play • Tips for tying cut versus uncut penises • Suggestions for tying men from the perspective of both bottom and top • How to broaden your sources of inspiration for tying • Making the experience of suspending male bodies better for all parties • And plenty more. BondageOtter is the founder of Rope Burn SF, the USA’s first ongoing masc-of-center, rope-specific play party + skill share, with his remaining energy spent volunteering for numerous gay organizations. While he has studied with many official and unofficial teachers in Japan, Europe, and the Americas, he has primarily focused on the styles of Naka Akira, Akechi Kanna, and Yoroï Nicolas. He is particularly devoted to adapting Eastern aesthetic principles to the tying of larger bodies, honoring the history and feel of Japanese tying while opening it up to the erotic scenarios of the leather bar. He enjoys sharing his style of play with others, aiming for scenes to be both hot and hurty, where the progressive restriction of freedom encourages creative forms of expression for both top and bottom. Listen now on all podcast platforms, and look out for Episode 202 to hear part 2 of the interview.