Ep206: Tying outside a marriage - An interview with monogamous couple Pearl and Bayowolf

Bayowolf and Wolfspearl have been married for 42 years and partners in kink for the last 13. Shibari has become a central part of their journey over the past six years, deepening both their connection and their creativity. About a year and a half ago, with open communication and a deep commitment to their marriage, they chose to begin tying with other people—an experience that has expanded their skills and enriched the bond they share. Both live with autoimmune diseases and actively pursue health and strength through clean eating and an intense fitness regimen, showing that resilience, love, and rope can go hand in hand. In the episode Mya and Fox explore with this delightful couple: • Why they decided to tie with other tops and bottoms • How they explored and agreed what rope with others would look like • Their limits and boundaries to ensure they protect their relationship • What the most challenging topics of discussion were in that conversation • The ways in which they built trust in each other and relaxed some of their boundaries over time • The benefits gained and learnings through tying outside their marriage • Differences between tying with each other versus other people • Being each others’ cheerleaders • Integrating into the rope community as a rope top and rope bottom in their sixties • ‘Onboarding’ new rope bottoms safely • Their perspective on why there are so few rope bottoms over 35 in the community • Tips for older rope bottoms and tops integrating into a new rope community • And plenty more