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Although "Dominant" and "submissive" (Dom/sub) are often viewed as BDSM-exclusive, these terms fundamentally refer to a spectrum of naturally occurring strengths, traits, and expressions in every person and every relationship structure.

That's why you'll find mind-blowing insights, powerful wisdom, and practical advice on leveraging your natural Dom, sub, or switch personality for ultimate personal empowerment and relational fulfillment in every episode!

Subscribe to this podcast wherever you listen, and if you love what you hear, you can support future episodes and join these monthly Group Coaching sessions on patreon.com/ellexerotica!

Cheers to dominating in every area of life and love! XOXO, Ms. Elle

Trauma-Forged Kink: From Dark Roots to Delicious Reclamation

Jan 10, 2026•20:01

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps calm overthinking and self-analysis with insight into navigating kinks born of unhealthy or traumatic circumstances, with a powerful analogy that will help you enjoy your desires without judgment! Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now!

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Finding Strength After Trauma Using Discomfort as a Tool

Jan 3, 2026•43:37

In this intimate episode, Ms. Elle talks with a sweet submissive in the community who is struggling to navigate intimacy after trauma and reframes emotional discomfort as an empowering tool for growth. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now!

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Forniphilia Fears: Building Trust and Limits for Human Furniture

Dec 27, 2025•11:42

In this episode, Ms. Elle offers advice on human furniture play, the importance of building trust in physical limits for this kink, and viewing BDSM as a mirror for growth! Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now!

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Femdom Awakening: From Craving Control to Commanding Your First Scene

Dec 20, 2025•57:03

In this episode, Ms. Elle inspires a hesitant woman who craves the allure of stepping into her Femdom power but struggles to know what to say or where to begin. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now!

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Unpacking Toxic Shame: The Silent Saboteur of Your Dominant Fire

Dec 13, 2025•20:26

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant man reframe toxic shame from his childhood that is limiting his ability to show up in healthy, empowered masculine energy. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now!

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HSV2 Heartbreak: How Oral Rejection Can Crush Self-Esteem

Dec 8, 2025•28:34

In this episode, Ms. Elle works with a dear community member diagnosed with HSV2, struggling with insecurity and rejection about her partner's refusal to engage in oral sex. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now!

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Suave or Pseudo Dom? Identifying Kinky Dating Red Flags

Aug 16, 2025•23:37

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a submissive process recent events in a relationship that left her questioning whether she experienced authentic dominance or narcissistic control!

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Overcoming Insecurity and Reviving Intimacy in a Poly Dynamic

Aug 2, 2025•48:00

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant in a disconnected D/s dynamic pinpoint what is causing insecurity in his open relationship, discover the power of emotional intelligence, and learn how to lead with empathy for greater intimacy!

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Striking a Balance Between Extreme Switch Points

Jul 19, 2025•20:57

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Femdom switch identify her triggers surrounding submission and navigate the extreme emotions she feels on both sides of the slash!

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Turning a Triggering Request into Erotic Domination

Jul 6, 2025•24:10

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a triggered switch process a sub's request for sexy photos in a way that empowers her and provides erotic opportunity for Domination!

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From Flare-Ups to Femdom Flair: Reframing Worship & Service

Jun 21, 2025•41:09

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Femdom with an autoimmune condition reframe her beliefs surrounding worship and service, so she can manage her dynamic even during flare-ups that trigger urges to withdraw!

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Untangling Ties: A FemDom’s Path to Clarity and Freedom

May 3, 2025•50:25

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a FemDom in the #ellexarmy evaluate the health of her current romantic relationship with her girlfriend and end feelings of guilt and codependency about possibly moving on.

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From Guilt to Grandeur: A FemDom’s Reclamation of Space

Apr 19, 2025•28:09

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a FemDom in the #ellexarmy process latent guilt and self-doubt from a long-term abusive relationship to start taking up more space in her Dom/sub dynamic.

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Dom/sub Dynamics Unveiled: Decoding Power vs. Poison

Apr 5, 2025•36:47

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a curious newbie in the #ellexarmy distinguish between healthy D/s and her abusive marriage, highlighting the differences between Domination and narcissism, submission and compliance.

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Outsmarting the Pseudo-Sub: A FemDom’s Path to Power and Peace

Mar 22, 2025•50:03

In this epside, Ms. Elle helps a FemDom in the #ellexarmy sort through manipulative ploys being used by a pseudo-sub and overcome these toxic strategies to find resolve and empowerment in Her feminine identity.

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Unshackling Self-Trust: Rewriting the Sub’s Script

Mar 8, 2025•28:46

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a submissive in the #ellexarmy sort through obstacles prohibiting their self-trust and detach this narrative from the relationship with their Dominant.

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The Toxicity of Positive Projection

Feb 1, 2025•48:20

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a community member identify and end toxic positive projections that put her in victimized positions with dysfunctional people.

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Crafting Submissive Communication

Dec 21, 2024•26:09

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a growing Dominant understand the importance of setting boundaries and training respectful communication in Her dynamic without apology.

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Limerence After Loss

Dec 8, 2024•25:45

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a fawning submissive process their latent attachment and limerence for their former Dominant after a recent breakup.

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Overcoming Masculine Shame as a Lesbian Dominant

Nov 23, 2024•13:52

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a masculine lesbian struggling with confidence in her Dominant role find her power and overcome societal shame in her D/s relationship.

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How to Confidently Vet a New Sub After Being Burned

Nov 2, 2024•36:44

In this episode, Ms. Elle shares Her insights on how to vet a new submissive with confidence while struggling with codependency and self-doubt from toxic situations with former subs.

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The Mental Game of Thrilling Domination

Oct 20, 2024•21:55

In this episode, Ms. Elle talks to a Lifestyle Domme in Her community about the powerful aspects of mental play in physical Domination and Dom/sub relationships.

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Increasing the Dom/sub Gap Without Correction or Punishment

Oct 5, 2024•1:09:16

In this episode, Ms. Elle discusses seven powerful ways to increase the power gap in your Dom/sub relationship without resorting to harsh correction or punishment!

Watch Ms. Elle cover this topic on Her YouTube channel! https://youtu.be/tJDTqLt2W7s?feature=shared

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Caring for the Flare-Up

Aug 24, 2024•32:25

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a long-distance lesbian D/s couple figure out the best way to deal with caring for the Dominant during a flare-up of a chronic illness.

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Getting Kinky with a Chronic Illness

Aug 10, 2024•38:31

In this episode, Ms. Elle discusses how to navigate sexual kinks while dealing with a chronic illness or physical limitation and shares some surprising benefits you may not realize...

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