UK No 2 Kink Podcast (Feedspot Top 10 Kink Podcasts) with listeners in 160 countries. Talking Kinky is where Tom makes kink light-hearted, funny and real. "Laugh with Tom and his guests, it's a humorous talk show for the kink curious." Our host fearlessly talk kink, sexuality, unspoken desires and guilty pleasures. "Talking Kinky is helping to bring kink out of the shadows so more people can find their kink and ultimate pleasure."
Taryn helps Tom understand women’s pleasure in a bit more detail...
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom is joined by Taryn, a somatic sex and relationship coach and founder of Alive With Pleasure, to challenge some of the most persistent myths surrounding women’s pleasure.
Why are so many men taught to focus on performance rather than connection? Why is penetration so often treated as the main event? And how can couples communicate their needs without criticism, embarrassment or fear of ruining the mood?
Taryn explores the importance of slowing down, listening to the body and creating the emotional safety that allows genuine desire and pleasure to emerge. The conversation also covers lubrication, body shame, orgasm pressure, asking for what you want and why great intimacy is less about technique and more about curiosity, presence and communication.
An open, honest and deeply insightful conversation for anyone who wants to better understand pleasure, connection and the realities of women’s intimate experiences.
Discover Taryn’s work: With Pleasure Coaching | sex and relationship coaching
Sexsomnia: When Your Body Has Sex While You're Asleep - Tom meets Lacey a living breathing Sexomniac.
What happens when your body becomes sexual while your mind is completely asleep?
In this fascinating and deeply personal episode of Talking Kinky, Tom sits down with Lacey, who lives with sexsomnia, a little-known sleep disorder that can cause people to engage in sexual behaviours while asleep, with little or no memory of the events afterwards.
Lacey shares her journey of discovering she had sexsomnia, the impact it has had on her relationships, the confusion and embarrassment that often accompanies the condition, and how she learned to navigate intimacy while living with a disorder that many people have never even heard of.
Together, Tom and Lacey explore:
This episode shines a light on a condition that sits at the intersection of sleep, sexuality, psychology, and human relationships. Whether you're hearing about sexsomnia for the first time or have personal experience with it, this conversation is eye-opening, educational, and surprisingly relatable.
As always, Talking Kinky approaches the topic with curiosity, humour, compassion, and a commitment to helping people better understand the wonderfully complex world of human sexuality.
Because sometimes the most surprising things happen when we're fast asleep. Lacey can be found here on Instagram
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom steps into the provocative world of the Mozambican professional dominatrix, Mistress Martina, for a raw and revealing conversation why her male clients love pain, humiliation, and domination. (Tom gets a provocative offer at the end of the episode, the question is will he take it?)
Together Tom and Martina explore the psychology, pleasure, and power dynamics behind BDSM, uncovering how trust, consent, and control shape some of the most intense fetish experiences. From dungeon realities to emotional transformation, this episode delivers an unfiltered look into the art of professional domination.
What really happens behind the velvet curtains of London’s high-society sex club scene?
With Isabelle out of commission for a while due to other commitments, Tom is going to be interviewing some special guests.
So, in this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom sits down with Jasmine to lift the lid on a world of elegance, secrecy, flirtation, and carefully negotiated desire. From cocktails and conversation to the rules of consent, safety, and discretion, Jasmine shares what it’s actually like to step into these exclusive spaces where sophistication and sexuality meet.
Expect curiosity, candour, a few laughs, and a rare glimpse into one of the most intriguing corners of kink culture.
Sleep Tight… or Do You? | Exploring Somnophilia
In this week’s episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore one of the more controversial and often misunderstood kinks: Somnophilia, the fantasy of intimacy with a sleeping partner.
Handled with their signature blend of humour, curiosity, and honesty, the duo unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface of this taboo subject. Is it about vulnerability? Trust? Control? Or something deeper rooted in human desire and psychology?
As always, this isn’t about shock value, it’s about understanding.
Together, they explore:
The psychological drivers behind somnophilia fantasies
The crucial role of explicit consent and boundaries
How fantasy differs from real-world dynamics
Why taboo desires don’t automatically make someone “wrong”
And how couples can safely communicate about sensitive kinks
Expect laughter, surprising insights, and a refreshingly open conversation that challenges assumptions while keeping things grounded and respectful. Tune in and join Tom and Isabelle as they shine a light on another corner of human desire, no judgement, just curiosity.
Breed Me Baby One More Time
In this playful and provocative episode, Tom and Isabelle dive into one of the most searched and widely fantasised kinks: the breeding and creampie fetish. But beyond the shock value and taboo appeal lies a deeper psychological cocktail of intimacy, surrender, risk, and primal connection.
With their signature humour and curiosity, the duo unpack why the idea of “breeding” can feel intensely erotic for some, how it connects to trust, power dynamics, and evolutionary wiring, and why fantasy often plays a bigger role than reality. They explore the emotional layers, relationship dynamics, and communication required when partners want to experiment safely and consensually.
Expect laughter, candid honesty, and a thoughtful look at the difference between fantasy and practice, plus guidance on navigating conversations, boundaries, contraception, and consent.
Whether you’re curious, intrigued, or simply here for the ride, Breed Me Baby One More Time blends insight, irreverence, and real-world wisdom in the way only Talking Kinky can.
'Men Only': The Art of Desire
In this men-only episode, Tom explores the often-misunderstood truth about female desire: great sex doesn’t begin in the bedroom, it begins in the moments that come before it.
Introducing the concept of Core Play, Tom unpacks how everyday attention, emotional presence, and genuine connection throughout the day build arousal, trust, and intimacy with female partners. From small acts of care and meaningful communication to understanding the biological and psychological rhythms of desire, this episode re-frames intimacy as something cultivated, not requested at 10pm!
Blending humour, straight-talk, and practical insight, The Art of Desire offers men a powerful shift in perspective: invest in connection, and desire follows. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, marriage, or navigating modern partnerships, this episode reveals how showing up differently can transform your sex life and deepen your relationship in the process.
Aftercare whether its freaky or not, isn’t just a nice-to-have, it’s the glue that holds great kink, connection, and even vanilla sex together. In this laugh-out-loud episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first (and maybe a little too honestly) into the wonderfully messy world of aftercare.
From cuddles and check-ins to snacks, space, reassurance, and the unexpected ways people need care after intimacy, this episode explores why aftercare looks wildly different for everyone and why getting it wrong can feel just as intense as getting it right.
Along the way, Tom and Isabelle overshare (naturally), unpack real-life experiences, and highlight how emotional drop, sub-drop, and vulnerability can show up long after the fun is over. It’s educational, reassuring, and then… slightly unhinged by the end, with a finale that will definitely have you laughing out loud.
Whether you’re deeply kinky, kink-curious, or just wondering why you sometimes feel weird after great sex, this episode is essential listening.
Insightful. Honest. Freaky. And very, very funny.
Listener discretion advised… mostly because of the oversharing.
In this deliciously provocative episode of Talking Kinky, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into the irresistible pull of taboo.
Why does the 'forbidden' feel so good… and yet so wrong at the same time? From sneaky turn-ons and guilty pleasures to cultural conditioning, shame, thrill-seeking, and desire, Tom and Isabelle unpack the psychology and chemistry behind taboo fantasies and behaviours. Expect a healthy, playful debate that explores where taboo comes from, how it shows up in our sex lives, and when it can be liberating—or limiting.
This episode is thoughtful, sexy, and occasionally confrontational (in the best way), as our hosts challenge assumptions, laugh at themselves, and invite listeners to reflect on their own edges of desire. Whether you’re kink-curious, deeply experienced, or just fascinated by why “naughty” holds so much power, this one will get you thinking and feeling.
Listener discretion advised… curiosity encouraged.
What happens when one of you is curious, kinky, or adventurous… and the other really isn’t? Or when your kinks don’t quite line up the way you hoped they would?
In this episode, Tom and Isabelle dive into the very real issue of kink compatibility, from couples who discover mismatches early on, to long-term partners whose desires evolve over time. They explore what it actually means to be “kink-matched,” whether total alignment is realistic, and how couples can navigate differences without shame, pressure, or resentment.
Together, they unpack common scenarios:
• One partner kinky, the other more vanilla
• Curious vs cautious dynamics
• Mismatched fantasies, limits, or experience levels
• Fear of rejection, guilt, or “asking for too much”
• When compromise feels healthy and when it doesn’t
With personal stories, humour, and practical communication tools, Tom and Isabelle discuss how to talk about desire safely, how to negotiate boundaries with care, and how to decide whether a mismatch is something to work through or a sign to reassess the relationship.
Whether you’re navigating new conversations, stuck in sexual stalemate, or simply wondering “Is this normal?”, this episode offers reassurance, perspective, and a reminder that there’s no one right way to want, or to love.
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into one of the most talked-about (and misunderstood) sexual fantasies: the threesome. From curious first conversations to real-world experiences, they unpack why threesomes are so appealing, what people think will happen… and what often actually does.
They explore the different dynamics of MMF, FMF, and same-sex threesomes, the emotional undercurrents that can surface, and why communication, boundaries, and aftercare matter far more than most people realise. Is jealousy inevitable? Can a threesome strengthen a relationship, or expose cracks that were already there?
This is a laugh out loud episode as our hosts navigate the topic with their trademark mix of humour, honesty, and grounded insight. Tom and Isabelle talk through expectations vs reality, common mistakes, power imbalances, and how to decide whether a threesome is genuinely right for you , not just hot in theory.
Whether threesomes are a firm yes, a cautious maybe, or a definite no, this episode offers a refreshingly real, shame-free look at what it actually means when two people consider adding a third.
Curious, cautious, or already experienced, this one’s for you.
In this fast-paced, delightfully irreverent crash course, Tom and Isabelle take listeners on a whirlwind tour through 30,000 years of human desire. From prehistoric fertility carvings and ancient ritual sex, to Greek mischief, Roman indulgence, medieval repression, Victorian kink coded in corsets, and the explosion of modern BDSM culture, this is the entire history of kink… in half an hour.
Expect humour, curiosity, and a surprising amount of “Wait, they did what back then?” as your favourite hosts break down how human sexuality has evolved, been policed, celebrated, hidden, rediscovered, and reinvented across the ages.
Whether you're a history lover, a kink enthusiast, or just here for the wild ride, this episode proves one thing:
kink isn’t new,humans have always been deliciously inventive.
Tune in for 30 minutes of facts, fun, and fascinating filth.
30 Days of Connection: Introduction & Welcome (Day 0)
Tom and Isabelle set the stage for their 30-day intimacy programme in this introduction. Which includes a PDF you can read and 150 minutes of audio prompts across 30 episodes, all personally narrated by Tom and Isabelle to guide you along your way.
Whether you want to rekindle passion, deepen connection, or just spend more intentional time with your partner, this welcome episode explains how the 30 days of connection challenge works, what to expect, and why just a few minutes a day can transform your relationship.
Let’s begin, with curiosity, kindness, and a little bit of kink. You can find 30 Days of Connection on www.talkingkinky.shop
In this electrifying episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into the world of bio-hacking your body for better sex, better arousal, and wildly better orgasms.
If you’ve ever wondered why some nights everything flows effortlessly… and other nights you’re left wondering if your libido evaporated on the commute home, this one’s for you.
From the subtle tweaks that boost your baseline desire to the science-backed hacks that crank up intensity, the duo explore how stress, sleep, alcohol, nutrition, and hormones shape our ability to get turned on—and stay turned on.
And yes, they get into the juicy stuff:
• Why supplements like Length & Strength can support libido, stamina, and performance, especially for men who want a stronger, more responsive body.
• Tom shares his own experience trialing Jolt the Bolt sexual performance booster that’s been shaking up his energy, focus, and sexual vitality.
• The pair explore whether modern biohacks can actually retrain your orgasm pathways for more pleasure, more responsiveness, and deeper connection.
From cold showers to breathwork, L-arginine to maca root, dopamine resets to nervous system training, this episode blends science with honesty, humour, and pure Talking Kinky curiosity.
Whether you’re single, partnered, kinky, vanilla, or somewhere deliciously in-between, this episode is your permission slip to take your pleasure seriously and to discover how a few intentional upgrades can lead to longer build-ups, stronger sensations, and orgasms that hit harder than ever.
Why do some sensations hurt… and others heat you up?
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the intimate, complex relationship between pain and pleasure and why, for many people, the two are far more intertwined than we realise.
From the biology of endorphins and the psychology of trust, to kink dynamics, consent frameworks, and the fine art of reading your partner’s cues, this episode unpacks what really happens when we flirt with intensity.
Expect science, stories, giggles, and a few “oh wow” moments as we break down:
Why the brain sometimes confuses pain with arousal
How sensation play works (and why it can feel so good)
The difference between good pain, bad pain, and absolutely not
Emotional safety, aftercare, and conscious exploration
Real-world examples from both male and female perspectives
Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just love understanding human intimacy, this episode offers a grounded, playful, and surprisingly enlightening look into one of the most misunderstood aspects of kink.
Listen in — your body might already know the answer.
In an 'electrifying launch' of Season 11, Tom and Isabelle plug into the future of pleasure, where artificial intelligence, virtual reality, and haptic technology collide. From AI-driven lovers that learn your every desire to immersive VR sexscapes that blur the line between fantasy, fidelity and 'teledildonics' (Isabelle's new favourite word) this episode dives deep into the rise of “Haptic Lust” , touch you can feel, but never see.
Expect humour, curiosity, and a healthy dose of kink philosophy as Tom and Isabelle debate whether AI can ever truly understand human intimacy, what happens when your virtual partner becomes your emotional one, and how far we’ll go to satisfy digital desire.
Welcome to the brave new world of sensual technology, where connection, consent, and code all meet in the same bed and kink needs a software upgrade.
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In this fascinating episode, Tom and Isabelle explore how kink and neurodiversity intersect in beautifully complex ways. From sensory sensitivity to the need for structure, ritual, and deep trust, they unpack how neurodivergent minds experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection differently and sometimes, more intensely.
Whether it’s autistic hyper-focus meeting bondage precision, ADHD thrill-seeking finding expression in role-play, or the soothing predictability of routines blending with D/s dynamics, this conversation celebrates the many ways our brains and bodies seek stimulation, safety, and satisfaction.
With empathy, laughter, and plenty of real-world insight, Tom and Isabelle open up the conversation about embracing difference — in desire, communication, and play.
Sensory seekers, this one’s for you.
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In Part 2 of our role-play deep dive, Tom and Isabelle slip back into character, this time exploring two of the most popular and often misunderstood kinks: medical role-play and DDLG (Daddy Dom / Little Girl dynamics).
From stethoscopes, nurses, and “clinical scenarios” that mix power with vulnerability, to unpacking the myths, boundaries, and realities of age-dynamic play, the co-hosts keep the conversation candid, insightful, and funny. They cover why medical role-play holds such a powerful psychological charge, the importance of trust when exploring taboo spaces, and how DDLG is less about pretending to be a child and more about nurturing, care, and structured dominance.
As always, Tom and Isabelle balance education with humour, helping listeners navigate these fantasies safely while making sense of why they turn us on.
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In this first part of a two-part deep dive into role play, Tom and Isabelle unleash their inner beasts as they explore the raw and untamed world of primal play. From chasing, wrestling, growling, and clawing, to predator-and-prey dynamics, this kink taps into something ancient, instinctive, and deeply erotic.
What makes primal play so electrifying? Why do some people crave being the hunter while others revel in being the hunted? Tom and Isabelle pull apart the psychology, the thrill, and the boundaries that make this kink both exciting and safe.
Expect laughs, honest reflections, and a candid exploration of how letting go of “civilized” sex can create some of the most powerful connections.
Join us as we sink our teeth into the wild side of desire—this is just the beginning of our primal adventure, with part two coming next episode.
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Connect to Spark (no its not an electrostim episode) , Tom and Isabelle get real about the role of connection in lasting relationships. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership, newly dating, or navigating the ups and downs of intimacy, connection is the foundation stone that keeps love alive.
No connection = No desire, No desire = No intimacy, No intimacy = NO KINK!
In this heartfelt episode, they share stories, insights, and practical tips on how connection shapes desire, trust, and intimacy and why it’s the piece so many couples overlook.
There is also a small cameo of 30 Days of Connection, the team's guided programme of curated daily activities, including some kink, that are designed to help couples reignite passion, rebuild intimacy, and rediscover each other, one day at a time.
If you’ve ever felt the relationship spark slipping, this episode will remind you how to find it again.
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In this episode, Tom & Isabelle are stirring the pot with a little Vanilla & Spice. Discussing what happens when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t?
How do you navigate the differences without losing intimacy or connection? We’ll dive into the challenges, the joys, and the creative ways couples can bridge the gap between different sexual appetites.
And that’s not all—today we’re also tackling the big, brave step of coming out kinky. Whether it’s to a partner, friends, or even yourself, we’ll unpack the fears, the freedom, and the community waiting on the other side.
Honest, funny, and full of heart—this is one conversation you won’t want to miss.
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In this revealing and witty episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the world of sissification — a kink that blends elements of feminization, role-play, and erotic power dynamics. With their trademark mix of curiosity, humour, and non-judgement, they unpack where fantasy meets identity, the psychology behind the practice, and how it plays out in both consensual kink and lifestyle choices.
From the allure of silky lingerie and stockings to the deeper emotional and psychological layers, the hosts cover safety, consent, and the importance of clear boundaries in sissification play. They also highlight popular online communities where enthusiasts connect, share, and learn — including FetLife’s Sissification & Feminization groups, SissyKiss, and Reddit’s r/sissies — showing how these spaces help people explore and express their kink in a supportive environment.
Whether you’re a curious newbie, an experienced player, or simply fascinated by the psychology of transformation, this episode offers insight, empathy, and a few laughs along the way.
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I Wanna Be Your Panda
Furries, fluff, and full-on fantasies — in this episode, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle go whiskers-first into the furry fandom, uncovering what makes it such a fascinating and often misunderstood corner of the kink world.
From playful cosplay and anthropomorphic crushes to full-blown fursuiting and fursonas, we explore the blend of identity, community, kink, and comfort that defines furry culture. Why do some people feel most like themselves in a tail and paws? Where does the erotic element come in — and where does it absolutely not?
What’s the difference between being a furry and being into animal roleplay?
We look at the history of the fandom, its explosive growth online, and how mainstream media continues to get it mostly wrong — with a healthy dose of humour, curiosity, and cuddly panda references.
Whether you're a seasoned fur-tastic explorer, curious newcomer, or someone who just wants to know why Tom wrote a whole ska-reggae song about being a PANDA… this episode is for you.References & Communities Mentioned:
FurScience.com – Ongoing academic research project dedicated to studying the furry fandom
FurAffinity.net – One of the largest online art and community platforms for furries
r/furry on Reddit – A bustling online community where thousands of furries share, discuss, and connect
Psychology Today: What the Furry? – Dr. Courtney Plante explores the psychology of furries and the media myths
Anthrocon – One of the largest furry conventions in the world
BBC: Inside the World of Furries – A documentary look at furry life and love
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We’re kicking off Season 10 with a bang — or should we say, a boot — as Tom and Isabelle slide into the world of foot and stocking kinks. From silky nylons to wrinkled soles, this episode toes the line between fascination and fetish, with the usual mix of humour, warmth, and open-minded curiosity you’ve come to love from Talking Kinky.
Why are feet such a common turn-on? What is it about a pair of sheer stockings or a cheeky arch that stirs up desire? And how does one navigate foot play, from massage to worship, in a way that feels sexy, safe, and consensual?
Tom shares a rather memorable moment with a pair of hold ups, while Isabelle offers insight into why feet and legs are such a rich landscape of erotic potential.
Whether you're a seasoned sole-lover or just foot-curious, this episode is a playful and respectful journey into one of the most popular (and misunderstood) kinks around.
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In this bold and revealing episode of Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom sit down with the extraordinary Colin Richards – intimacy coach, somatic sex engineer, and the man behind some of London’s exclusive sex parties.
Colin opens up about the intersection of power, pleasure, and presence, sharing his journey from therapist to sensual facilitator, and what it really takes to help people unlock their erotic potential in a safe, conscious, and playful way.
We discuss the art of creating exquisite group experiences, the dynamics of intimacy coaching, the importance of consent and somatic awareness, and what truly separates performative kink from embodied intimacy.
Whether you're curious about elite sex parties or looking to deepen your connection in the bedroom, this episode is packed with insight, real talk, and a few jaw-dropping stories.
Find Colin online:
Website: www.intimacymatters.co.uk
Instagram: @intimacymatters