The longest-running kinky sex podcaster on the web! Graydancer started in 2005 with "the Ropecast" focusing on shibari, kinbaku, and fetish performance and art. Now he's expanding to "Kink, Sex, and Culture": consent issues, gender dynamics, power exchange, and all the myriad wonder of human sexuality. Alternative Relationships, Sexuality, Fetish, Performance, Rope bondage, Kink, BDSM, and more! There will be a steady stream of guest appearances by popular sexual performers, activists, and educators from around the globe.
With a friendly, conversational style and the occasional bad pun Graydancer's Podcast is a great way to engage in talking about adult sex education and the political and social climate surrounding consenting adults doing what they like to do.
Gray returns to the podcast after a hiatus to talk about how he's trying to reconnect to the joy of kink. He talks about his writing on medium ( http://medium.com/@graymiller ) and also reads an excerpt from his work-in-progress, "The Dance of Smoke & Ash".
Finally you get to hear a live recording of his performance at the Flow Erotic Cabaret at the Austin 2019 ROPECRAFT.
Special thanks to Madame Posh for that!
Many thanks to our sponsor Lee Allure ( http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap ) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer .
This episode starts with some information about a fundraiser for MetroVancouverKink, ( https://ca.gofundme.com/legal-costs-for-mvk ) but then gets really personal:
“Adaptive Rope.” That’s the term Lisa (Tame Lioness) and her partner T call what they do. He is living with cancer, and it has changed how they do rope - but not what it does for them and their relationship. She talks open and raw about how they have survived twenty-eight years, cancer, and still keep it hot.
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Back in the interview chair, Gray takes you to the Arizona scene for an interview with _Zaphod_, owner and creator of Phoenix42 Creations ( https://www.instagram.com/phoenix42creations/ ).
They talk about “being a rope guy”, Taoist philosophy, creating consent with partners, how to create a more inclusive community, and more.
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On May 26th, 2019 in Chicago Illinois at ROPECRAFT six artists-in-residence ( Marceline VQ, Mr. Beck, The ArtistFromBeyond, Corinne, Stressykitty, and Jazzibel) met for a panel moderated by Graydancer. They explored a lot of topics, and agreed to have them shared here on the podcast!
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Gray launches the first podcast of the year with three things that tops (and anyone else who cares to) should stop doing in 2019. Then he reads a blog post published on http://TantusInc.com about dominance for the changing body.
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Live from Madison’s own Freyja Project Winter Festival comes TypeAtypical, the Iowa-based rope presenter. He talks about what it’s like to be an asexual rope top and how he defines style - and helps people find their own.
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At the Columbus ACE Rope Event RiggerOdys & AngelKnight spent some time talking about their rope philosophy, including what it's like to study with Naka Akira and what it means to use rope to "secure emotions."
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Gray gives a kind of "State-of-the-Ropecast" update, explaining why August was such a dry month and where and how his travels will help make September the opposite. He also talks about some of the burnout he's feeling with kink, and the ways he's fighting it by embracing the role of kink historian.
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This is part two of an interview done with Jessie and PJ Sage from the Peepshow Podcast about the ways that the SESTA/FOSTA rulings may affect the kink scene, and why we should support sex work decriminalization.
You can find part one at http://peepshowpodcast.com (look for episode 16).
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Whether it's your first Rope Convention or your fiftieth, this interview combines with articles that GoodMostTimes, Ojipan, and BaconAndrew created full of helpful suggestions for making them GREAT.
Read more at http://ropecraft.net/firstcon or check out the show notes at http://libsyn.com/graydancer to download PDFs .
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Coming from Australia, Eternal Angel talks about finding the "edge" of your play, how pro-domming intersects with kink community, and gives us a taste of her new class "Consent & Navigation", coming soon to a ROPECRAFT near you!
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This episode is an interview where you can get to know Chicago-based kinkster WhiskyTangoFoxy. She talks about self-suspension, photography, collaboration, DIY kink, and why having a Statement of Principles such as the one at https://ropecraft.net/principles/ is a good thing for an event - plus a lot more!
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“Mindfulness”, “Awareness”, “Connection” – these are all words that are used a lot in the rope bondage community. This class goes beyond the buzzwords and into practical ways that your rope scenes can be hotter, safer, and taken “next level” (wherever that is for you).
Combining Naiia’s woo with Graydancer’s skepticism the class includes meditation techniques, the value of checklists, leveraging power exchange into your rope bondage, and the dangers of habit. They will also provide demonstrations of rope rituals that have and haven’t worked for them and provide you with the tools to create and adapt your own.
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Closing out the year, Gray talks about some hard lessons learned during POC Listening Sessions.
Then he answers a listener question: how do you get out of a slump when you're tying?
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In part two of this class, Dr. Eaves and Graydancer talk more about how to manage power exchange and polyamory in the day-to-day and even to the hopefully-not-so-bitter end.
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Both polyamory and power exchange relationships have complexities that can be wonderful, frustrating, or even both at the same time. In this class Dr. Eaves and Graydancer – two people who are enthusiastic about poly, D/s, and each other – will talk about some of the tools to manage these kinds of relationships in nurturing and sexy ways from beginning to end. (Part 1)
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Ozma of Oz wrote an essay about preparing yourself for what to do if you or someone you care about gets accused of a consent violation. The essay is nuanced and useful, and Ozma gives some great commentary on her writing.
It can be found in full in the show notes at http://KinkSexCulture.com.
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Intro music was "Sexy Time" by the Leather Uppers. Outro was "Balrog Boogie" by Diablo Swing Orchestra. Both are used under Creative Commons License
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Gray interviews Victoria Blue from her studio ( http://voxbody.com ) talking about how a rope space is created.
Then Naiia joins him as they tackle the difficult subject of consent from "the other end" - combining it with a primer for anal sex play to talk about negotiation, lube, and other important ideas for sexual creatures.
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Intro music was "Sexy Time" by the Leather Uppers. Outro was "Balrog Boogie" by Diablo Swing Orchestra. Both are used under Creative Commons License
Naiia has serious kink presenter cred: she is
In this episode she talks about her personal journey dealing with depression and how it affected her sex, kink, and poly relationships. You can read more from Naiia at her website, http://naiiabound.com .
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Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com flips the script and interviews Gray about this whole Consent.Rocks thing: how it came about, what it hopes to accomplish, and how to get involved.
You can register for a Consent Rocks training by visiting http://consent.rocks and looking for the nearest one coming to you!
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Gray starts out by revealing the secret location of the "lost episodes" of the Ropecast: http://ropecastarchive.graydancer.com
Then things get serious when he answers a question put to him at the Philly GRUE: "How would you respond to a false accusation of consent violation?"
He talks about the advantages a kinkster can have using the SUDO app (iPhone only, sorry) to create identities that don't make you vulnerable. You can even tell him what you think at kinksexculture@sudomail.com !
Finally he lightens things up with the song that he sang during the Mythchievous performance at Fusion 2017. You can get the track in MP3 playable version at http://patreon.com/graydancer by pledging $1 or more towards the support of this podcast.
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