Loving BDSM

There was no mental bandwidth for a fresh topic this week, so we did something new(ish?). We responded to recent comments we’ve received on episodes! In this episode: We’re going live on YouTube Friday,...

Some kinksters talk about submission and surrender as separate concepts – which is not something we’ve thought about before – so let’s talk about it. In this episode: Register for the FREE online Jumpstart...

This week, we’re talking about recent articles and news stories about BDSM and sharing our opinion on the situation. In this episode: June 26 is the last day of a sale at the Kinkery!...

For better or worse, language changes over time — including the terms we use in kink. These are our chaotic, messy thoughts on those changes. In this episode: We’re no longer live streaming the...

We definitely talk about kink and sex in this episode, but it’s more of a bonus section kind of episode, so of course it’s chaotic AF. In this episode: We talked about a few...

This week, we answer your kinky questions! In this episode: Diabolical sticks are available at the Kinkery! We added a new workbook to the Etsy shop: Communication in Power Exchange We asked for questions...

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Is it okay to not like the degrading messages I received? I keep meeting “Doms” that are just...

In the final installment of our conflict in D/s series, we’re talking about what do to after you’ve resolved this conflict to learn from it and (hopefully) avoid future conflict. In this episode: Fundraiser...

In this week’s episode, we’re continuing our series on conflict on D/s and answering the question, “What do we do about it when it happens?” In this episode: No episode next week Friday night...

This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict. In this episode: New live stream time starts NEXT...

Note: If you need to skip the part with a content warning, fast forward by about 7 minutes. In this week’s episode, we discuss the fact that Dominant’s may use their authority and control...

NOTE: The audio quality wasn’t so great for this one, but we figured out the problem and fixed it for next week! This week, we share some of our own kinky pet peeves and...

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Where we were last week Dom pushing too far Toy vs sub Punishment or play One-sided dynamic Fairness...

There’s no single right answer. This is a wide-ranging conversation where we try to figure out what we think about the idea of being spontaneous. Spoiler alert: Kayla does not have a spontaneous bone...

Let’s talk about what might make you feel disconnected from your partner in your D/s relationship – and how to reconnect again. In this episode: Get your FREE ticket to the 2026 Dom/sub Dynamics...

This week, we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram and YouTube! In this episode: Final donation totals to the Campaign for Southern Equality Questions: I’m a soft dom and my wife wants...

After a couple of stressful weeks where we’re both exhausted, we recognize that we’re disconnected. Part of reconnecting is answering (mostly) ridiculous relationship questions, lol. In this episode: Our 2026 Patreon Membership Drive ends...

Emotional intelligence and emotional regulation is extremely important for communication and happy, healthy power exchange relationships. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive What is emotional intelligence? From HelpGuide.org: “your...

This week was a tough one personally but we wanted to show up, so we went with a chatty bonus section-like episode, but we also answered kinky questions from YouTube Live Chat. In this...

This is a question we get asked a lot – in this case, it’s more about not seeming “obvious” to your children. Here’s the question: I grew up in a religious family and while...

Yes, we just did this a few weeks ago, but we all probably need a good rant or two. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive I don’t want to...

A submissive has been in and wants to remain in a 24/7 TPE but wonders if it’s hopeless now that their Dom isn’t communicating. Here’s the question: I am 78, and my Dom is...

Consider this a “political” episode but instead of rehashing the news, we’ll offer ways to get involved plus we’ll answer a question we received: can you have a power exchange with someone you disagree...

WE’ve said for years that we think friendship needs to be the basis of any power exchange but certainly a long-term relationship. This week we’re talking about why it matters and how to build...