dom trans woman

Lexington Park, Maryland, United States
Relationship status
About me
I'm a transgender woman that has identified as female for a long time. I have lived as a woman for 25+ years already. I consider myself non-op since surgery can be expensive and has risks that I'm not ok with. Little by little I expose a bit more about me in my blog. It has helped me because I also become a better person and Domme.

I'm definitely an outlier. I am ok that I don't fit in with society's norms. It is their problem, not mine and I will continue to be my true self instead of what they want me to be 

Spirituality is also a big part of my life. I try to stay out of religious discussions though since some people feel a need to try and convert me.

I have a job that I truly enjoy and brings me peace. It is stressful at times but it is very rewarding.

I am looking for a female submissive and if they are on the Cage then so be it.
BDSM and me
I try to always learn. There is always something new I want to find out more about. I don't know as much as I think I do. I won't do any of those BDSM "tests". What I enjoy may change from day to day and can't be put into percentages that will not be the same in a month.  When it comes to having a submissive, my goal is see her become a better person. Anyone can spank, cane, or tie up someone, but it takes love, kindness and patience to watch your submissive grow into someone who cares and takes pride in herself. Sometimes the push she needs is not punishment, but help in seeing what she can do to help herself.
Watersports, urine and scat play are turn offs along with probably a great way to end up sick. The only other hard limit is diapers. I'm not a fan of people who think they have all of the answers. It means you are close minded and not open to learning anything. I'm not an expert on anything and I am ok with that.

I am looking for a female submissive. I have no need for a male submissive including those who consider themselves sissies.

Close minded people who treat trans people as an object. People who are worried about looks instead of who someone is as a person.
What's new
I have about 1 year of college left. Social Work is my major and pondering about getting a Master's degree. It is just who I am. Helping others pleases my soul. It is also something I do well at because I have been there before and worked my way out of that hole myself.  It is not always what you learn in classes, but your life experience. It reminds me to be grateful for the blessings I have today, because they may be gone tomorrow. The job I have today is not where I expected to go in social work but have found it is the right place for me. 

I am always in the process of discovering who I truly am. It shows up in my blog or conversations with friends. Sometimes I don't see it until I reread it in my blog and just wonder where that came from.

It's time to find balance again. I am getting back into tai chi. I also have spiritual studying that I do.

You cannot really be too concerned with what people think of you. You're on your own adventure of growth and discovery. So it's not always good to be who people think you are, especially if you subscribe to it as well ... which is easily done, because then you don't have to figure out who you are, you just ask somebody else.         Tom Waits
Update date
Dec 5, 2023
Member since
Jul 21, 2020
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