LadySusweca

dom trans woman

57

Single

I'm a transgender woman that has identified as female for a long time. I have lived as a woman for 25+ years already. I consider myself non-op since surgery can be expensive and has risks that I'm not ok with. Little by little I expose a bit more about me in my blog. It has helped me because I also become a better person and Domme.

I'm definitely an outlier. I am ok that I don't fit in with society's norms. It is their problem, not mine and I will continue to be my true self instead of what they want me to be 

Spirituality is also a big part of my life. I try to stay out of religious discussions though since some people feel a need to try and convert me.

I tend to dress up daily. I do enjoy jeans and a T-shirt on occasion, but being dressed up makes me feel happy and serene. 

I have Meniere's disease so I am losing my hearing. I may also have vertigo unexpectedly which puts an end to the day since it could be hours before I feel ok again. I do know ASL but working on becoming more fluent for another way to communicate.
I am not looking but if I was it is only for a female submissive. I'm definitely not looking for a male submissive. Most of the men leave messages that are toxic and stressful. I am seen as a fetish and not a person. So many have also wasted my time because there are some who refuse to read profiles.

.לא הייתי מתלונן אם הייתי מוצא אישה יהודייה

I try to always learn. There is always something new I want to find out more about. I don't know as much as I think I do. I won't do any of those BDSM "tests". What I enjoy may change from day to day and can't be put into percentages that will not be the same in a month.  When it comes to having a submissive, my goal is see her become a better person. Anyone can spank, cane, or tie up someone, but it takes love, kindness and patience to watch your submissive grow into someone who cares and takes pride in herself. Sometimes the push she needs is not punishment, but help in seeing what she can do to help herself.

Watersports, urine and scat play are turn offs along with probably a great way to end up sick. The only other hard limit is diapers. I'm not a fan of people who think they have all of the answers. It means you are close minded and not open to learning anything. I'm not an expert on anything and I am ok with that.

I will not sugarcoat the truth. Some people probably will not like that but it's not something I will change to please people.

I do not send a pic after one message. I will never send a pic unless I trust the person first.

I am looking for a female submissive only. I don't want or need a male submissive, there are no exceptions. I know men will still send me messages since there are some who refuse to read a profile or respect someone's wishes. It also tells me that they are not a submissive.

There are also men who think that as a transgender woman that I am just a fetish to please them. I know that I deserve better than that.

Calling me goddess/sweetheart/honey or any other pet name will not win you any favors. Using the term goddess is especially annoying.

I am working on my Master's degree in Social Work. It is just who I am. Helping others pleases my soul. It could be counseling or helping people find the assistance that they need to move forward. It is not always what you learn in classes, but your life experience. It reminds me to be grateful for the blessings I have today, because they may be gone tomorrow. Life has been a very interesting journey and I have learned from the valleys as much as I enjoyed the peaks.

I am always in the process of discovering who I truly am. 
I try to keep my life in balance. Meditation and my spirituality help me stay grounded. I am finding that staying single is my best option since there has been too much trauma and abuse in my life. It is not what I want, but it is what is best.





You cannot really be too concerned with what people think of you. You're on your own adventure of growth and discovery. So it's not always good to be who people think you are, especially if you subscribe to it as well ... which is easily done, because then you don't have to figure out who you are, you just ask somebody else.         Tom Waits

Jul 21, 2020