Businessman, English, go getter.
Intelligent, creative and fun.
I am willing and able to offer the right Lady much to enjoy
If you want a man, who is strong, but is willing to surrender to you completely for the long term if compatible. Please contact me :-)
I would like to be loved and Owned.
I equate control with love therefore, more control, more 'love'
I’d like to find someone to explore and create the profound intimacy that comes from authentic power exchange.
My profile pic I find a powerful idea, although I’m not a CD/TV, the idea of such elements very impactful on my psyche. Same for chastity, coercion, captivity and transformation.
Predominantly a psychological sub/slaves. Being controlled is my thing. Knowing where you intend taking me but genuinely unable to prevent you...:-)
I lifted the below off the nett, its not mine
Great concepts
slave r
Ladies and submissives,
Please humbly accept this posting. i intend it only to help. Before reading it please understand that i know there are levels of slavery, and that most people stay in what i call the "middle ground", where everything is based on safety, sensuality, and the Dominant and submissive agreeing together upon the dynamics of the relationship.
This posting is not really for the middle ground. Having lived and participated in the middle ground for many years i strive to find the next level of power exchange. A place where there is no negotiation between the Domme and submissive over the rules, where there is no safety words. A place where real slavery starts. For me true submission does not begin until the moment where i want it to stop and the Dominant says " no we are moving forward".
To this end i have created the following list of ideas that lend themselves towards real slavery.
Guide to real control over a submissive.
Real control over another person requires leverage. If your relationship is hidden or part time in nature then there is little consequence to the submissive should he not obey. You want to establish serious consequences for not obeying your every command. Even if those consequences are perceived and not real..
Master list leading to complete control:
Friends and family: Others being made aware of your relationship arrangement is possibly the most powerful form of control. This means you need to get to know who his friends and his family are. Socialize with them. Obtain email addresses, Facebook contact info, telephone numbers.
Work or job: who does he work for? who is his boss? who is his secretary? Visit his work become friends with the key people in his social work circle. He will be highly motivated to do as you say if he fears that you might out his submissive nature. Remember this is the one area where he prides himself on being seen as a confident, dominant persona.
Access to his home computer: Ask for a complete list of accounts, and passwords. The download app “TeamViewer” is free and it allows you access to his computer from a remote location.
Worship boards: This is key to reinforcing your superiority. It establishes a daily ritual in which your submissive must kneel in front of a worship board . The worship board is comprised of pictures of you, rules that he must live by, possibly a mantra that you have written. Possibly your panties, or personal items. A list of goals the submissive is to achieve. Also spraying the board with your perfume is a strong influence. (we tend to underestimate the power of suggestion through smell). Then have your submissive kneel in front of the board every day for 20 -30 minutes.
GPS tracking: With the advancement of technology comes the ability to track your submissive’s movement with ease. There are many services online that you can subscribe to. Most have a small monthly fee and provide you with minute by minute tracking of your GPS device. A device that you can place in the submissive’s car, or lock around his ankle. These devices are water proof units so there is no need to remove the device. Most come with batteries that will last up to 120 days.
Chastity devices: Chastity is a must! A submissive’s desire to serve is driven his sexual desire (in most cases). Keeping him in a constant state of arousal will ensure his cooperation until training and patterns of submissive behavior become a habit. Establishing that the penis is your property is important. In the case of a submissive that you are feminizing and placing on female hormones you must realize that his normal male sexual drive will reduce with the introduction of the female hormones so it is critical that you replace his own male sexual drive with worship of your female sexual desires. He must become a part of your sexual needs, and learn to live through your desire, and releases. You must establish this as his purpose, failing to do so, will result in a potentially depressed submissive with no sexual drive.
Cameras: If you do not live together full time it is easy to set up internal monitoring cameras in his home. Most cable TV providers offer a package, as well as many private online companies. This service will allow you to access a privately coded website where you can view his home 24/7, from your computer or even your phone. It is a highly erotic feeling to be able to check on your submissive at whim.
Rules: To take your Dominance from a point where it is just a part time play thing to a full time way of life requires real time rules. For example not allowing him to sit on furniture. Having him kneel face down, palms up when you arrive at the home. Asking permission to pee, or setting specific times for sleep, worship, cleaning, diet, etc… are all important. More important than the rules you set is making sure that you enforce the rules with an absolute iron fist. He will test the boundaries. Knowing that the rules are real and that they have real importance will make him feel safe, thus allowing him to delve deeper into his submission.
TV and Magazines: You must control what outside information your submissive is viewing. His view of the world should be an extension of your view. Therefore you must control what programs he is allowed to watch, what magazines he is allowed to read. If you are feminizing your submissive then forbid him to watch sports, (unless of course he is dressed as a cheerleader) reinforcing that he is not a man. Place only female magazines around the house, like Cosmo or In Style. If you want him to learn to cook, then leave cooking magazines around the house.
Electric Fence: This is for the more aggressive Domme. Shocking dog collars are commonly used to control a submissive. Many bdsm companies now have a shocker attached to chastity devices. A shocking device around the balls is highly recommended as a form of training. Taking this to the next level is as simple as obtaining a shocker that works with a perimeter fence so he is under your control when you are not there. This can be purchased at any pet store. Place the perimeter stakes outside the house ensuring your submissive does not leave the house unless you have turned off the fence. If he attempts to do so and crosses the line of the perimeter fence he will be shocked.
Discipline: Do not under estimate the power of consistent discipline! The key to success is never letting your submissive get away with any infraction. Punishing him for his infractions will establish security on his behalf this is a real. If your schedule does not allow for instant punishment of infractions, then place a list on the refrigerator of all infractions and address them one by one when you have time. Make sure you discuss out loud the infraction and why he must be punished.
Power of attorney: Slavery by law is illegal, but there are ways around this. Aside from everything listed above, having your slave sign a power of attorney allowing you make all or any decision on his behalf gives you the ultimate power.
Decision making: While most of the “part time” power exchange couples adhere to consensual agreement between the parties, true power exchange only occurs when one party has no say or choice in the decisions being made. This is not to say that you as a Domme should not take counsel with your submissive at times, and weigh his concerns or desires, but your decisions should always be the final word.
Body modification: There is no greater display of ownership than for the superior to make modifications to the submissive that represent their arrangement and the superior’s control. The most common would be a tattoo symbolizing ownership. Others might be things like breast implants, nipple rings or castration. Body modifications are permanent and speak to the irreversible path the two of you are on. Done with ceremony and compassion such changes can be life altering moments that cement your Control.
Cuckolding: Although not for everyone, the chemistry of cuckolding your submissive, by making him prepare you for dates with other men or women, making him watch your love making, making him clean up afterwards, or making him wait hand and foot on your lovers will take his submission to an all new level. Use caution with cuckolding it will bring out insecurity in the best of relationships. This is one area where some discussion and reassurance needs to be made to your submissive that he has a real purpose in your life. That he is irreplaceable! But that you have temporary needs that he cannot meet because of his inferior status. Do not allow a lover to jeopardize your relationship with your submissive. Explain to any potential lover that you are a package deal.
Feminization: This is done to remove all elements of the male ego that may cause conflict within the submissive. It also places the submissive in a state of mind where he is more in tune with your female needs. Do not shy away from this form of control. In majority of cultures around the world today and those dating back 3000 years, all cultures have a name for a third sex, often described as feminine male who takes on the role of a slave in the household. Some very powerful ways to feminize with immediate effects are to have your sub get fake nails applied. Additionally long lasting fake eye lashes are the rage today and will last for several weeks. Painting toe nails, smooth shaven body are all elements that will constantly remind your slave of his position in your house hold. We also highly recommend corset training, hormones, and breast implants. Complete this process and you will have no need for a power of attorney; your slave will humbly accept his role as your permanent maid/wife
I've just begun writing as a hobby and love it. An example of my poetry is below.
Minds Eye View
We met down town
And she extended her hand.
There wasn’t a chorus,
there wasn’t some band.
“Hello”, she said
“I’m your new Domme”
“I’m Don”
“Perignon?”
We laughed.
I liked the to and fro,
I loved the banter.
I mean, why trot,
when you can canter.
“I prefer Louis Roederer”
she laughed.
‘Well then. Should I call you Don,
or Louise?”
“Maybe Barbie?”
“Please, hardly”
“We will see.
Now wont we”?
“I like what I see”
“So, do I”
“Can you take a caning?”
“Until I cry?”
“No”.
“Until you die”.
“No safe word?”
“Except perhaps for a tear”.
“No respite?”
She leaned forward
“Till I can taste your fear”
Behind her eyes, rose a Sun
Eclaircissement at last.
She raised her glass.
“To becoming undone”
It wouldn’t be long
before her crop would come down.
Bit between my teeth, the spurs
The Equestrienne,
In white coloured jodhpurs
I proffered
“Sounds so delicious, quite divine”
‘Yes, and when I have you at my feet
You will ask yourself.”
“What took me all this time”?