Re: Lesson of the day

Dominant is a personality trait, not a skill to be learned—no training is required. You don't need experience. You are either dominant or you are not. It is like being shy. No one teaches you that. Yo ...

Thu Mar 27, 2025 7:32 am • 3 Replies • 2003 Views

Being a "Dom"

So...a couple of things:

First, you need to ask yourself what you are getting from staying in this relationship and whether your needs are being met. If you are not getting the things you really wa ...

Thu Mar 27, 2025 7:17 am • 12 Replies • 2931 Views

Multiple bad experiences

I am sorry this happened to you...but repeat after me:

We do not give money to anyone in return for sexual/kinky activity. EVER.

Unless you have a kink around being forced to give your money awa ...

Sat Mar 22, 2025 9:56 am • 15 Replies • 5161 Views

Is there anyone that is not confused?

I think there are a few things at play here.

First, as someone pointed out, there are men who pretend to want to submit just so they can get off. Certainly these men are not submissives.

Next, t ...

Sat Mar 22, 2025 9:47 am • 18 Replies • 5104 Views

Addressing needs as a submissive

First and foremost, we are all people first. Any roles we assume are after that.

Therefore, I believe that there has to be some time when you are just people together--not DD/lg, not D/s, not M/s.. ...

Sat Mar 22, 2025 9:36 am • 11 Replies • 5952 Views

Submissive Male

I concur that everyone in this kind of relationship needs time to adjust, process, and learn. I would also note (kindly) that just because you want a particular thing doesn't mean that a Domme is goin ...

Sat Mar 22, 2025 9:25 am • 7 Replies • 2479 Views

Kink education

As several folks have pointed out, there are tons of podcasts (and some videos) that can help you to learn about a variety of topics and skills. I know I've watched some videos on basic rope bondage s ...

Thu Mar 28, 2024 1:13 am • 14 Replies • 3124 Views

Interesting Reads on the Old Guard

Here's an interesting read from Race Bannon--who a lot of people would easily identify as "Old Guard":

https://bannon.substack.com/p/the-old-guard-that-never-was-and

another take from him that i ...

Tue Sep 05, 2023 7:14 am • 20 Replies • 5801 Views