switch female

Middletown, New York, United States
Relationship status
In a polyamorous relationship
About me
 I've come to learn more about myself these past couple of months. I'm versatile,, I rather be a submissive to a Dom who can and will appreciate all of me, not just the parts that give satisfaction. Please don't tell me what you think I want.to hear. Im loving,caring, honest and i expect the same in return. Communication is a must. Don't string me along, it may get you hurt or disrespected in the end. I can fulfill your requests as long as it's reasonable and consent is given. I co-parent with my ex under the same roof, not the same bed, if that's a problem, don't bother.  I'm also a human lie detector. i can smell a lie a mile away.  I keep the conversation going to for my own curiosity, seeing where you're at on all aspects.  Please don't play games with me, you won't like how it will end.  I know I'm too nice of a person to really say what's on my mind.  So please be careful of what you say and how you say it when conversing with me.

I'm a hands on and visual person, your main goal as a submissive shouldn't be just about making me happy. I would like for you to find your own happiness and inner strength as well. if you want only the physical part of submission, then I'm not the one for you. What I require from a submissive is honesty, cooperation and understanding that not everything about the dynamic has to be sexual.   It be very irresponsible of me to accept  someone's submission knowing that I cannot give the all that you desire .  I am who I am, my techniques may or may not be different  like others. 

I try to be as honest as much as possible, if honesty is not part of your character, please don't bother. As I spend more time here and getting to learn more about myself and others, my profile will change accordingly.
BDSM and me
As for the bdsm aspect, I love spankings, bondage, fisting, anal, giving blowjobs and pegging.  Outside of that, my submission is precious not only to me but to those who are blessed to receive it. I will not submit to just anyone. My submission and trust has to be earned.  If i feel distrustful vibe you will not receive neither one.    And yes, even a switch can be submissive (to the right person)
I don't like neglect, abandonment, mind games or humiliation and I will not do the same to others. Don't even try to use my triggers against me.  Nothing illegal, children, psychological damaging scenes, Hypnotism, anything that interferes with my free will/against my free will.
What's new
I'm in a poly relationship with my gf of 8 years, a sub who i recently added to  my family.  I give  all aspects of myself (including time)willingly and with love within my heart.  I believe in uplifting and motivating others. I don't consider any part of my life "vanilla"  It's a cyclone roller coaster ride with a side of rocky road. I've learned to be more careful of who i choose to be in my life, since not everyone is who they claim to be and get extremely hurt spending  time and energy to those who don't deserve  either.  Life has handed me enough heartaches. I would love to be able to feel joy and freedom for a change.

I'm proud of who I am, if me being a SWITCH is a threat to you, oh well.

Outside of bdsm, I love to crochet, design baby blankets, dancing,  motorcycles (even though i never owned one) and playing pool.  I'm learning how to come out of my shell more.  Learning how to speak my truth without worry,judgement or criticism and not to give a flying f*ck what neg sh*t is said about me.

Changed my nickname, going back to my true nickname.  The name I found solace in when i felt/was abandoned by those I loved and cared for in my life. People come and go, Heaven and the stars will always be there.
Update date
Monday, August 30, 2021
Member since
Saturday, February 6, 2021
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