In a monogamous relationship
50+, ecstatically married, straight, professional
I've always enjoyed bondage and some light pain play. My wife is very into our trying new things. She likes to see me dominate. She likes to feel scared in a controlled way. She'd like to watch me be with another woman in a sub role. Fantasy rather than reality for now. We'd like a threesome eventually. Does this sound tame here?
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
96% Rigger
92% Dominant
88% Degrader
81% Brat tamer
73% Voyeur
71% Switch
70% Sadist
69% Rope bunny
65% Submissive
63% Experimentalist
63% Masochist
60% Exhibitionist
52% Primal (Hunter)
47% Vanilla
44% Master/Mistress
41% Owner
40% Degradee
35% Non-monogamist
34% Slave
32% Brat
28% Pet
13% Daddy/Mommy
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Boy/Girl
0% Ageplayer
Not at all sure. Not into scat, open-minded to most else.
No longer separated by distance, but finding our professional lives distract us from, well, each other. New desires for her - humiliation, more pain, determined to watch me someone else - and for me - wanting to control her in and out of the bedroom, enjoying hurting her physically, exploring consensual non-consent, if that makes sense (rape scenrios etc).