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ABob
Age
58
Relationship status
In a monogamous relationship
About me
58, very happily married, straight, professional. Non-smoker and won't consider someone who does, sorry/not sorry. Occasional drinker, not a fan of drunkenness. Vegetarian, mostly vegan (I'm French, cheese, it's hard!)
Obviously ABob is not my name, but I can't go full transparency with the job I have and community I live in. So while connection is made, this is who I am :) Professionally working in the field of psychology and therapy, specializing in kink-aware therapy (so this community) as well as areas such as depression, anxiety, couple's therapy, bereavement etc.
Yes, I'm a therapist. No, I'm not your therapist, any more than just because you're a sub I can treat you as my sub... I can bill hours for that, but I won't do it gratis here. (I hadn't considered that would need to be said, but there you go.)
Obviously ABob is not my name, but I can't go full transparency with the job I have and community I live in. So while connection is made, this is who I am :) Professionally working in the field of psychology and therapy, specializing in kink-aware therapy (so this community) as well as areas such as depression, anxiety, couple's therapy, bereavement etc.
Yes, I'm a therapist. No, I'm not your therapist, any more than just because you're a sub I can treat you as my sub... I can bill hours for that, but I won't do it gratis here. (I hadn't considered that would need to be said, but there you go.)
BDSM and me
I've always enjoyed bondage and some pain play. My sub is very into our trying new things. Pushing boundaries and getting past fears. She likes to see me dominate. She likes to feel scared in a controlled way. She'd like to watch me be with another woman in a sub role. Her being my sub is fun, but not practical or even desirable 24/7.
I'm the D in our D/s. Evolving into a DaddyDom? Nurturing is important, guiding and helping my sub to grow.
Time to find that third who will take us all to new places.
100% Dominant, 98% Degrader, 95% Master, 93% Rigger, 90% Voyeur, 81% Brat tamer, 78% Sadist, 69% Exhibitionist, 66% Owner, 64% Primal (Hunter), 62% Experimentalist, 58% Daddy, 36% Vanilla, 29% Non-monogamist
I'm the D in our D/s. Evolving into a DaddyDom? Nurturing is important, guiding and helping my sub to grow.
Time to find that third who will take us all to new places.
100% Dominant, 98% Degrader, 95% Master, 93% Rigger, 90% Voyeur, 81% Brat tamer, 78% Sadist, 69% Exhibitionist, 66% Owner, 64% Primal (Hunter), 62% Experimentalist, 58% Daddy, 36% Vanilla, 29% Non-monogamist
Limits
Not at all sure. Not into what I'm not into, very into what I am. Into quite a bit, in theory. If you're the right person, you'll find out.
What's new
Coming out of lengthy 'chats' which didn't materialize. Ghosted. Back to square one I guess.
Mustering up the energy to start again.
In real life, enjoying music of many genres, an avid reader, keen on philosophy, psychology and learning in general. A bike rider. A wanna-be guitarist.
We - my partner (who is my sub) and I - are looking to meet someone serious, fun-loving, deeply submissive and wanting to learn with us. Connection is a must, shared interests, intellectual curiosity, happy to engage online and build trust. Europe and travel. Not a one time fiing kind of thing.
You're probably in your 30s or 40s if this is going to work. If you're in your 20s, experience suggests it probably won't. Or you are exceptionally mature and well put-together...
Mustering up the energy to start again.
In real life, enjoying music of many genres, an avid reader, keen on philosophy, psychology and learning in general. A bike rider. A wanna-be guitarist.
We - my partner (who is my sub) and I - are looking to meet someone serious, fun-loving, deeply submissive and wanting to learn with us. Connection is a must, shared interests, intellectual curiosity, happy to engage online and build trust. Europe and travel. Not a one time fiing kind of thing.
You're probably in your 30s or 40s if this is going to work. If you're in your 20s, experience suggests it probably won't. Or you are exceptionally mature and well put-together...
Member since
Feb 8, 2021