Submission: is it someone's choice or their nature?

I suspect it's a personality trait. Possibly formed by specific sets of early experiences, but also just how one is. I think someone who really wants to can 'learn' to be a certain way, just for fun o ...

Tue May 06, 2025 6:15 pm • 18 Replies • 1093 Views

Got ghosted again

Yes, it's happened a couple of time on here. Short exchanges which seem promising and then responses stop. I usually reach out with a 'I won't bother you again if I don't get a reply to this, hope you ...

Fri Nov 29, 2024 3:38 pm • 11 Replies • 1422 Views

Water sports yes or no?

I'm also intrigued. I love to do it, to have my sub kneel and welcome my pee on her body. She likes it, to a passive extent, but it doesn't uber-excite her. She does it, for me. She's tried taking it ...

Sun Oct 20, 2024 6:39 pm • 55 Replies • 13955 Views

Emotional Availability

Hi there

I'm finding my professional mode triggered here. As someone working with kids in that context, do you have supervision? By supervision I don't mean someone watching what your are doing, bu ...

Sat Sep 28, 2024 10:34 am • 13 Replies • 2168 Views

BDSM inspired smut - any recommendations?

Check out Manon Mercier-Labelle on Amazon.

Sat Sep 14, 2024 6:00 pm • 6 Replies • 618 Views

What's your dynamic

We found each other first, got married and discovered BDSM, at first quite tame tying-to-the-bed stuff but moving beyond over the years to DD/BG D/s, with punishment, tasks, service. Originally the id ...

Sun Sep 01, 2024 5:40 pm • 22 Replies • 2787 Views

*WELCOME to THE CAGE!* Introduce Yourself Here

I've been lurking here for a while, on and off. Using power exchange purely sexually atm with my wife of 23 years. We are very, very keen to go further and meet others, learn more about this community ...

Sun Jul 14, 2024 6:18 pm • 3267 Replies • 1140057 Views

For the Sadists, I'm curious as to why

Connected to the question I came here to ask. Why do I like it? Why does it turn me on so much to cause pain? And how far would she let me go? And how far do I want to go? I think I'd go further than ...

Tue Oct 03, 2023 8:21 pm • 37 Replies • 8699 Views

*WELCOME to THE CAGE!* Introduce Yourself Here

Hi, I'm Abob. Well, clearly not, but that's my username for now. Mid-50s dom in a long-term marriage. New(ish) to the lifestyle apart from some BDSM play on and off over the years. My partner is wanti ...

Tue Oct 03, 2023 7:37 pm • 3267 Replies • 1140057 Views

Just 4 fun: Sexy word game. Rules: Must be a sexy word.

Need

Tue Feb 09, 2021 3:31 pm • 6685 Replies • 1302774 Views