Azeil
dom male

Premium
New York, United States
Age
50
Relationship status
Single
About me
Vulnerability: The dichotomy of a Dom corresponding with and getting to know a “potential” sub vs. Dom and “actual” sub who has submitted…

It must be understood who needs to be vulnerable and when…


A “potential” Dom MUST be vulnerable during initial correspondence when getting to know a potential sub and trying to build trust. They must be very giving of their time, wisdom, and relevant personal information at this stage. But they must be willing to do it without expectation, or anything in return. They must be totally willing to give mentally, intellectually, and emotionally, even while knowing that a potential sub might ghost after a day or two of seemingly meaningful correspondence. Yes, it is a risk for a Dom to be this vulnerable at this stage because considerable time, emotion, and knowledge is shared while knowing that absolutely nothing may come out of it. But it must be done because this is how trust is built. If a Dom can’t be vulnerable at this stage, then it will be hard for a potential sub to trust them.


Once a strong level of trust is established and the potential sub agrees to submit, then THAT is when the subs level of vulnerability surpasses that of the Doms. If a sub cannot get themselves to a complete state of vulnerability by the time encounters begin, then they either shouldn’t be a sub, or they don’t fully trust the particular Dom they have agreed to submit to, and they shouldn’t have submitted in the first place. 


It’s not a game, but it’s its fun, and it’s doesn’t have to be complicated as long as we are being safe and responsible…
Limits
To be discussed...
Update date
Dec 11, 2021
Member since
Nov 1, 2017
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