sub female

United States
Relationship status
About me
I am kind... not weak. It is important to know the difference. I have run the gauntlet in my life and am stronger for it. I am honest, loyal and obedient. I value the art of communication and believe it should be open and honest even when it's difficult. I am well educated and have the ability to look at things from a perspective most do not... because of that I am often misunderstood. I strongly believe in motivation and intent and am purposeful in words i choose. I pay attention to subtleties and notice patterns in behavior, as well as deviation from it. I wake up each morning in search of the joy each day has to offer and don't take myself or life too seriously. I afford others the things I would appreciate myself and never pass up a chance to make someone smile. I have a significant history of trauma, beginning in childhood and have experienced much turmoil as an adult. Im a survivor, I always find a way... and do so maintaining my empathy and compassion for others. I'm a continuous work in progress.
BDSM and me
I have been in this lifestyle 20 years and am a firm believer in the old ways. The lifestyle is very much part of the fabric of my being. I am a true submissive with the heart of a slave, waiting to serve the dominant with whom I can evolve. I also have a dominant streak but do not consider myself a switch. I dom[me] both men and women... submit to only men... and would never submit to a man I can dom[me]. I have been a mentor to submissives entering the lifestyle, attempting to navigate it safely. Even though I have thought of leaving the lifestyle quite a few times, I have found it to be impossible.
Right now im not sure there is a dynamic in my future but I know myself and have made peace with being unable to serve currently. It brings with it an emptiness and heartache. I am taking time for myself and not looking for a dynamic.
If a prospect comes my way... the last thing I want to do is rush into anything. I'm not even sure if I'm offering my trust and devotion anymore.
Always on the lookout for new friends with similar interests.
Are not up for negotiations.
What's new
If you feel you want to msg me- start by answering this:
As a dominant, what is submission to you; whats its meaning and value...?

I don't have time for high-school bullshit, dishonesty and fuck fuck games... or people that subscribe to this new way horseshit.

Although I am a sub, I am not YOUR sub. Take care how you come at me. 
I am respectful always. But cross the line and I won't hesitate to let you know.
Update date
Sep 29, 2022
Member since
Sep 16, 2021
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