Nitrev

dom male

32

Single

Young professional recently moved to Florida. Your typical stable job, "safe" guy with ambitious goals, a penchant for alt/e-girl aesthetics, bondage, cosplays and fetishwear, hanging out with bad bitches, and 24/7 tpe, and has a streak as an unapologetically kink-centered deviant. I finally decided to invest in a premium so you can message me, and I can message you, still not my preference messaging first though. Not shy, I just think you're probably already inundated in largely unwanted male attention without me throwing my hat in to get lost in a sea of dick pics and exhausting "on your knees slut" one-liners lol. And if you have questions about what I'm seeking or want to talk and see me in chat, this is your invite to send a dm too. If you read on and my vision resonates you, then I definitely want to hear from you, provided you could stomach living in Florida for a year or two until we can move

*I may consider the right female partner if they are from another country, but I will only consider males that are US citizens or can become US citizens. I cannot sponsor you with the nature of my telework job*

BDSM is so much more than just kinky sex. BDSM is the gateway, the thing that makes everything else possible. The service oriented aspects, fun and amusement, camaraderie of a household unit, the goals and better life they can achieve, and the structure it provides to those needing it. The kind of power exchange dynamic that promotes the division of life's labors to elevate the household to financial freedom and relief of stresses of everyday life that enable us to focus the rest of our lives on fun, body/health, travel, kink, friends and family, and each other. That's the kind of life I want to build eventually, and it is through BDSM that it really becomes possible. To be head of house and lead the submissive in service to me improving my quality of life, on the agreement that it in turn improves her as well as Doms bring up their subs with them as part of the house.

I am a lifestyle Dom looking to establish my ideal lifestyle household. I am not certain what final form this household takes, but I am open and excited to see what comes of it. It could be one slave that covers everything I wanted, it could be many slaves that individually cover parts of the above list, it could be a female partner jointly owning a domestic house boy/girl. Or we could discuss other ideas, mono or poly, sexual or non, D/s or Dom/Domme; as long as it meets my goals sooner than later, and everyone is on the same page, I won't really sweat the details on how we got there.

I don't want to give people the wrong impression so I'll say this here first: if your interests involve sex, you should know that:
-my interests are not purely sexual, and I've been told that I am somewhere on the asexual spectrum, but I am generally not sexually interested in people
- If you are male or masc, I am not sexually attracted to you. You can still serve, and you can still find sex, it just won't be with me.
- Age ranges aren't set in stone, and I may or may not still be attracted to you, but I generally look between 22-38.
- If you have kids, I'm sorry, but I do not want to balance a lifestyle household with kids at this time.

While I am open to discussing what your needs are and what interest you would have in this house with me, I am not interested in doing everything with everyone. Like, it's a larger pool of people I'm open to being my house servant than I am open to marriage with. And that's okay. Likewise, not everyone is looking for marriage, or kids, or even sex, etc. So if these interests resonate with you, then let's talk.

It's not set in stone, especially the age range, and I may or may not still be attracted to you, but 

In this lifestyle, I am looking for a mix of services practical and satisfying my kink interests: 

- Domestic servitude. The staple of course. Providing domestic routines to maintain the house, nutrition, and provide other conveniences frees time and burden to enable me to use that time in other ways

- Wardrobe control and dress-up assignments. Someone who puts in the effort to dress cute and occasionally slutty for me everyday brings me an indescribable joy, and I love seeing the creativity in the outfits people come up with. I would want someone I can collaborate with to put together a wardrobe of leather, latex, aesthetics/styles, costumes, even cosplays are possible, and would be assigned tasks to dress according to a given theme or including an accessory. Then it would be up to them to put together the clothes, hair and makeup

-Skill building. extra brains, people to learn additional skills I do not have the time for otherwise and report to me for how we may use them: things like beauty, finance and venture capitalism, content creation, interior design, etc.

- Protocols. I prefer higher protocols. I enjoy much of the conduct of various lifestyles and borrow from them. Things like kajira's code of conduct, tpe, or open to deeper roles people crave like bimbo, dolls, or objects

In play:

- Practice/play partner. Taking you to events/classes in the local bdsm communities, practicing and experimenting at home with bondage, CNC, breath play, implements in impact, electro, hot/cold, any other lifestyle interest you might have. 

- Sensation play. All kinds of sensations from pleasure to tease, denial, pain, a little intimidation, nervousness, excitement, anticipation, frustration, hot, cold, and helplessness just off the top of my head.

Someone who knows I can be an asshole tease, but deep down I truly cherish the things they do for me

...and even moreso the things they let me do to them lol

I have been in this lifestyle since experimenting with self bondage at the age of 13 and tying and gagging the neighbor girl in our pretend games since much younger, so nearly two decades. I enjoyed both aspects of it and that pretty much molded my entire lifestyle view. In that time, I have self explored, engaged in kink relationships, play, munches, and community events, and networked with all manners of kinksters my age and mature, domme and submissive, to build my experiences and skills, and I am finally ready and able to pursue creating my ideal lifestyle. 

My income allows me to discuss relocation, so don't be concerned about distance in reaching out. We would do sfw/casual videocalls on snap/discord, just talk, move to some protocols, plan visits, etc. I would not ask you to make a near permanent decision like moving until you felt like it really is what you wanted.

Permanent Online Public/viral, I require complete discretion Illegal Toilet

(3/15/24) It's unfortunate that the personals were taken down. Updated profile for clarity

(7/10/23) Plotting my next move (that's not some corny tactile Dom verbiage, I mean literally moving myself somewhere else). Need to be close to a tech market: probably between SF, SD, and NYC. Chicago is also an outside possibility, but I've never been there/not sure about resale value outside of moving to the coast. Not able to get my million dollar home near SF yet.

(6/1/23) First of the month, decided to buy premium.

(5/23/23) Been recovering all year pretty much, and I'm starting to get back into the lifestyle, slowly.

(12/15/22) Recently I was networking in South FL communities and was going to meet a couple riggers to possibly get lessons from them, but I suffered a fairly significant injury that will take months to recover from, so I guess I'm on a hiatus for now lol

(6/5/22) Well, I have been deemed worthy of random acts of patronage online, so that's new lol I am finally moved into my new house, just setting it up now. Bought a washer/dryer, a desk, still getting a large fridge, PC, rebuilding my home gym, etc. So no more sharing walls with people, I finally have the privacy to explore kink in the comfort of my home ?  I work from home as an engineer, so I am never far and could session all hours of the day lol. In addition, I can work remote, meaning I can work and travel. All I need is my laptop and a private wpa2 encrypted high speed internet (your typical private network). There may be restrictions with working internationally though.

Jul 20, 2024

Sep 22, 2021