How far would you be willing to travel for the one build in LTR Dynamic ?

Everyone is at most a plane ride away. What matters is what their area is like. How are the laws? How are the people? Is there a city or somewhere remote? What do you do about work? What other limitat ...

Thu Jun 12, 2025 8:45 am • 16 Replies • 2607 Views

Four Words

Only four? Not enough

i lead, you follow lol

Tue Apr 22, 2025 5:27 pm • 27 Replies • 4738 Views

Are you submissive or are you just lazy

Opinions can be very wrong lol

What stands out to me is that you still refer to being a free use slave/sub as 'doing nothing' when it can be one of the most physically and mentally intense, demand ...

Thu Apr 17, 2025 4:23 am • 33 Replies • 13228 Views

Are you submissive or are you just lazy

Another question to add to the forum post: According to more experienced BDSM people, if submission can be anything like you say, then how does submission exist at all?
If this makes no sense, what I ...

Wed Apr 16, 2025 7:39 pm • 33 Replies • 13228 Views

Are you submissive or are you just lazy

It isn't laziness, and that's just the tip of the iceberg. Some s-types, particularly slaves want TPE and alleviating the burden of needing to function or make decisions for themselves. Some want to b ...

Mon Apr 14, 2025 2:47 am • 33 Replies • 13228 Views

Emotional Availability

I adopted a policy a while back to be open in communicating about most things, personally. That I can talk casually about things that others might find stressful, I feel helps to 'lighten the mood, ...

Sun Aug 25, 2024 4:11 pm • 13 Replies • 3327 Views

Re: Nonsexual D/s

Is it possible to have a nonsexual D/s dynamic, or be in a D/s dynamic and be able to display nonsexual dominance or nonsexual submission?

Yes.

Due to a previous experience (I won't go into deta ...

Sun Aug 18, 2024 2:46 pm • 12 Replies • 2842 Views

Vanilla dating

Simply that I have interests that coincide in bdsm that are not as likely to have those outlets in a vanilla relationship

And the rest of my life is a long time to go without being able to pursue ...

Wed Jul 03, 2024 7:41 am • 26 Replies • 5574 Views

Musing turned Inquiry: Demanding Relocation

Something else I notice in this thread is that a lot of people take issue with the word choice 'to demand' but admit that eventually moving in is a stipulation to having a dynamic. That's still a dema ...

Sat May 11, 2024 7:11 am • 20 Replies • 5622 Views

Thoughts on the new Seeking feature?

I think it's an improvement on Personals. I felt Personals, especially Dominant male seeking submissive female, dealt with so much over saturation: the moment you published or bumped your post it was ...

Fri May 10, 2024 10:36 am • 18 Replies • 8502 Views