dom male

Arizona, United States
Relationship status
In a monogamous relationship
About me
I am a mid-forties dominant male. I'm a professional entrepreneur. I am married to a lovely vanilla woman who tried BDSM for me but determined it was not in her nature to be a submissive. I have needs that extend beyond the bedroom as far as BDSM is concerned and would like to find a submissive woman, preferrably married with children (though not necessary), who understands the necessity for discretion and would like to further explore the realm of a D/s relationship.

I'm not a gym rat and do not expect anyone else to be one either. I find myself attracted to strong, successful women who want to give up control of their lives outside of the office. I understand, and will work with, the complexities of a D/s relationship outside of a traditional marriage. I do not find myself attracted to "stepford subs" who only say "yes Sir" and "How may I serve you, Sir?". I enjoy banter and someone who makes me think and keeps me on my toes. I enjoy being challenged, but will not fight with a brat. I've been described as a lovable teddy bear, in both physical form and personality. I consider myself a sensual dominant, but I am not a Daddy Dom. I am not perfect and will make mistakes. I am not afraid to apologize or ask for forgiveness either. I have yet to master that whole walking on water thing, but I'm trying.
BDSM and me
I've been involved in the lifestyle for over 20 years. I found the Story of O when I was in college and it spoke to me on a level that no other work of erotic fiction had before or since. But I was lost. The internet was in its infancy and through various online forums and local friends, our small group of fetishists became close friends and learned from each other. I was fortunate to train under an experienced Domme and learned the fundamentals of being both submissive and Dominant. At the time, I was trying to "find myself" and discover how I fit in the jigsaw puzzle of the scene (although honestly, I'm still trying to figure that out). 

I've had experience with a couple of online and real-time submissives over the years. Anyone who's been through the heartbreak of losing a submissive or a Dominant when a relationship ends knows the pain that one feels. I'm finally at a point from my last relationship that I would consider starting to look again.

I love erotic art; both imagery and the written word. Fetishware, especially latex is my kryptonite. 

I enjoy writing erotic fiction. No, I have not published anything. I have various works in various states of completion. I tend to write short stories, but have been searching for the best outlet to host them. I've tried, Tumblr, and others, but never have been satisfied with any of those platforms and eventually the cyberbullying and kink shaming turn me off. I heard about the community here and thought I would explore it further.

== Results from == 
100% Dominant 
100% Rigger 
100% Master/Mistress 
94% Experimentalist 
89% Voyeur 
83% Non-monogamist 
81% Daddy/Mommy 
66% Owner 
64% Primal (Hunter) 
60% Sadist 
49% Vanilla 
48% Exhibitionist 
47% Degrader 
4% Ageplayer 
0% Switch 
As a Dominant, I like to think I'm open minded and will discuss limits on a case-by-case basis with a potential submissive. I will respect any hard limits she may have and will explore anything she's interested in. I will not be involved in anything illegal. No minors or animals. No scat, although watersports would be negotiable. I do not share My submissive. I have been approached by other couples about being a third in their relationship to explore a sharing fantasy and would consider it as long as I am not in a commited D/s relationship.
Update date
Saturday, January 20, 2018
Member since
Tuesday, November 21, 2017
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