I am a man who stands at 6 foot 4 inches and weighs 270 pounds. My introduction to BDSM happened because my size made others assume i was dominant. I have always been someone who enjoys being there for the people in my life and that extended to my sexual life. I enjoyed the BDSM dynamic because I found that it led to intense communication which let me know exactly what my partner needed.
I am a non-native English speaker. I moved to this country when I was 8 years old not speaking a lick of English. I mainly learned to speak grammatically through literature while spending time in the library. As such I have an outsiders fascination with language and it's intricacies.
I am rediscovering myself at the moment. I have always believed I was dominant. Due to my frame I was pushed into the dominant role and found that role fulfilling. I have since realized that what I enjoyed about being dominant was meeting my subs needs.
I recently met someone who saw my submissive side before I did. They realized that I don't want to control my sub. They made me realize that I approached domination as a submissive would. I am all about my partner's pleasure and want them to be fulfilled. Its not just that I want the best for my partner its that if they aren't having pleasure I feel no pleasure. I can't simply use someone for my own libido.
I'm not entirely sure what my limits are. I know that humiliation, the kind that is most often present in femdom media, doesn't really entice me. The idea of seeing someone I care about being intimate with others isn't erotic and is in fact heartbreaking.
Outside of cuckolding I am willing to try anything to see if I would enjoy it. I'm essentially rediscovering myself right now.