I am a Dominant who has desires individuals who give themselves to me completely. That is most important. All BDSM is predicated on the ability of a submissive to trust another absolutely.
I am a man who stands at 6 foot 4 inches and weighs 270 pounds. My introduction to BDSM happened because my size made others assume i was dominant and my environment conditioned me into dominance. To this day physically dominating my submissive with my presence is one of my favorite kinks.
I am a non-native English speaker. I moved to this country when I was 8 years old not speaking a lick of English. I mainly learned to speak grammatically through literature while spending time in the library. As such I have an outsiders fascination with language and it's intricacies.
While I thoroughly enjoy play sessions I want a long term relationship. In an attempt to weed out any bad apples, as in those who are incompatible with me, I developed the 50 day rule. It simply means that I wait 50 days from when I first interact with a sub to engage in physical domination with them. The point of this rule is to ensure that the necessary trust and care is developed between two individuals before anything kinky happens within. In the heat of the moment it is possible to forget to control your dominant traits. This rule is just a reminder for me.
My ideal submissive is one who derives pleasure from service and from pleasing her dom. Ideally domestic service should entice her just as much as being tied up and played with. She should derive satisfaction from my pleasure and should view her pleasure as my concern not hers. She gives herself to me because she trusts me to care for her in all aspects.
I enjoy BDSM online and in person. Online BDSM, I find can be even more rewarding just because of the challenges involved. In physical BDSM my natural body tends to put people in a submissive mood. Online however I have to work to earn a partners submission.
While I am open to experimentation with pain I am not a sadist. If you are an individual who wants a dominant to beat you to a pulp or to make you bleed do not approach me. On the flip side I do have a bit of a cruel streak when a sub disappoints me.The pain I will dispense is up to my discretion and is meant to correct not entice.
I view my submissive as a reflection of myself. Therefore I find expecting my submissive to engage with scat or waterplay is distasteful.
I am a monogamist and a rather possesive one at that. I do not share my subs.
BDSM is a private matter for me. While I am not above reminding a submissive of their place in public I refuse to allow my submissive to be humilated in front of others. My submissive is a reflection of me.