I’m a 26-year-old black male. I’m a college graduate earning my bachelor’s degree in Business Administration, majoring in Business Information System with honors cum laude. Very proud in my achievements so far. I’m hoping to pursue a career in IT and furthering my education. Achieved one IT certification, going to work towards more and potentially a master’s degree.
As for my appearance, I stand at 5’8” and weigh around 128 lbs. I have light brown skin and a slim/athletic build.
I am introverted and shy at times, but I do open up when talked to. I’m learning to slowly put myself out there to be more social. I greatly enjoy playing video games and having started breaking into pc gaming as well. Some of my favorite franchises being Sonic, Pokemon, Bayonetta, Kirby, Spyro, and many more. I also enjoy fighting games and learning about them too, with my current game being Guilty Gear Strive. I enjoy going for walks, light exercises, anime, learning to cook more, art, tennis, badminton, and technology-related things.
My viewpoint on BDSM:
Regarding BDSM, my perspective or philosophy on things is different. When I discovered BDSM, I was very fascinated by it. I took an interest in the Dom/Master roles, but I wasn’t too appealed by the traditional styles of them. Certain characteristics and aspects that are commonly derived from them doesn’t reflect who I am as an individual. I don’t want to put on a false persona of any sort. I wanted to develop something that feels unique to me and my perspective. This is where I considered myself in the role of a “Soft Dom/Master”.
~ What does it mean to be a Soft Dom exactly? ~
My interpretation and how I view the role of a Soft Dom to be more than just simply being in control. It’s more of being a guiding hand to hopefully bring encouragement, support, structure, and more to allow one to be their best self possible. That being as an individual and sub.
While the feeling of being in control can be empowering, it’s not truly felt when you don’t have someone that’s chooses to listen to you. Someone that actively listens to you, understands you, and wants to follow your guidance is what being in control is. This goes both ways as well.
This is what I hope to learn and achieve, and what feels empowering to me.
I want to take this gentle approach while still being in control and guiding the other person and myself to be our best selves possible. I believe a BDSM relationship should revolve around communication, trust, and treating the other person with respect. Encouraging, understanding, growth, and empathy from both sides and creating positive experiences. I hope to learn and develop into the Soft Dom/Master that I want to be.
Who and What I am looking for:
In terms of the ideal partner, I’m seeking a man with a beefy muscular physique, who is submissive (submissive top). I have always been drawn towards men who are bigger and stronger than I am. For me, who’s less physically imposing, it’s very appealing seeing the buff, stocky, beefy-muscled men. Their physical and personal qualities exude confidence and outer strength. This causes those around you to perceive you as a dominant figure simply due to these characteristics. Whether in their personal and professional life.
I can understand how stressful, demanding, and overwhelming it can be to have these expectations placed on you. It can be a lot of weight for you to carry with not many to understand that. Even though they are a strong resilient man. I intend to find that individual who yearns to be on the opposite end of how society perceives them. To be guided, nurtured, controlled, and where they can continue to be their best self possible. To encourage, provide support, and structure where their inner strength can shine and reach new heights for themselves. Creating a safe, positive environment that fosters vulnerability, trust, and a sense of balance in life.
Additionally, It creates a contrast between both individuals, and gives the impression of the larger male as a knight or bodyguard protecting the dom while under his control. I would prefer a partner between the ages 26-55, but am open to slightly older or younger.
I want to be able to share these feelings with another person, as we both grow. I don’t have overly high expectations of how this should unfold. I believe building a connection first and seeing how that progresses is the best way to start. Honesty, respect, communication, and trust from both ends are important factors to a successful relationship. Creating a safe environment free of judgement to be able to learn while respecting one another. The willingness to learn and be a part of a dynamic such as this also important as well. While Im mainly looking for online connections , I’m open to in-person connections too if we reside in the same area.
Feminization, Degrading, Humiliation, Blood, Race play, Scat