LndDom

“Hark, the Dominant’s persistence till it must be answered to” - Browning

“I hold a beast, an angel, and a madman in me" - Dylan Thomas

“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power” -Wilde.

“Desire becomes surrender, surrender becomes power” - The Joker 

“Sex without pain is like food without taste” - De Sade

“To seek, to strive, to find and not to yield - Tennyson

I’m a passionate SadoDom from NW London who’s lived the lifestyle for 10+ years with Subs who I’ve typically trained and helped evolve from relative newbies to experienced kinksters. I’m probably a Master based on experience but like lots of things in the BDSM world people get precious about names and sometimes it just makes you sound like a twat, which I hope I’m not! I push myself to learn as we are all on a journey and there’s no part of my life or skills I can’t improve on.

Fundamentally I believe that pleasure fulfills your Sub’s fanciful needs in the moment but pain and submission fulfills your partner’s deep psychological needs over the long terrm. I’m like a mixture of different types of domination (I’m no Switch) and tend to do painful and practical in my play more than pretty for that artful shot to camera. I’m not much of a rigger as I was a shit Boy Scout, struggle with my shoe laces and get a little bored after 15 minutes with hemp and a knot that looks like my lower intestine after a car crash! I rock with the belt, floggers and crops, and am a very gifted amateur edge play but that takes real trust and for some will always be a hard limit.

For me, Subs are strong, beautiful women to be owned and cared for, as they given their submission as a great gift to me. I never use the term Slave although I’ve had them as I find the term distasteful with too many negative conitations. I prefer the term pure submission where my Sub does what she’s told without limits instead of being told what to do, but that takes time, familiarity and most of all a deep, shared sense of trust. I’m not particularly into the scene but do go to the odd event. Im not so much a regular attender at munches as sometimes they feel a bit like a Liberal Democrat / Campaign For Real Ale meeting and I always end up sitting next to fat Gandalf for some reason! However I am looking to make a community of local friends to chat, laugh, explore and on occasion meet.

In my vanilla life, I’m have a leadership position so appreciate discretion in all things as my two lives cannot mix. I’m educated with a Masters (irony 2) and my MBT profile is ENTP, “The Innovator” . I’m also a culture vulture and am as much a Sapiosexual as a Kinkster! I know my Barolo from my Bacardi and am a bit of a Foodie without being a weirdy beardie! For fair warning, my humour can be puerile at times and I overuse exclamation marks!

== Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Dominant 99% Sadist 99% Master/Mistress 97% Brat tamer 92% Rigger 90% Owner 78% Degrader 75% Voyeur 54% Exhibitionist 53% Non-monogamist 46% Ageplayer 44% Daddy/Mommy 43% Experimentalist 28% Primal (Hunter) 16% Vanilla 0% Switch