Sir Panda

dom male

Non-kink wise, I'm an eclectic geek with a love for tabletop games (both board games & RPG's) and genre entertainment - especially fantasy, SF, and supers. I enjoy most types of music, from classical to 80's rock to contemporary pop and EDM. I'm politically progressive and served as a district-level delegate for Senator Barack Obama and Senator Bernie Sanders. I'm amateur writer and poet, a teller of tales and a thinker of things. I've had a few comic books and short stories published, and I've written two movie screenplays and a TV show pilot (no yet marketed). In my vanilla job I help small businesses and non-profits navigate the complex nightmare that is American health insurance.

I'm known as Sir Panda in the wider BDSM community and my work as a kink educator and volunteer. I'm a cisgender man and mostly heterosexual in practice, with some experience across the the gender spectrum. I am polyamorous to the core, which comes with all the feels. Kink-leaning since high school, I've been active in the BDSM scene since 2009, both playing and volunteering. I value continued growth in my dynamics and my own self-development. Different partners bring different joys and lessons. I always strive to be learning, both in technique and in wisdom. That's a lifetime process.

I am Dominant, romantic, and can be cruel in play. I'm adaptable and have several modes/facets depending on the energetic connection.

I have played with folx across the gender spectrum, but right now am only seeking cis women.

I am currently in the process of moving from Seattle to Kansas City. I have just one partner. We are polyamorous, so I'll be looking for a local play partner or submissive.

Nov 7, 2025