My age range preference is subs, 18 to 42. I am looking for something real, but you can't get there without ONLINE so IRL by way of Online is what I want, unless of course you live around the corner, but even then it's healthy and practical to learn each other online. And NO... that is not the only thing I'm here for.
Thanks for looking at my profile.
I'm a Lifestyle Master involved for most of my adult life, but the term Master can be so misleading. I've had slaves, but that doesn't make me a Master.
I've taken a lot of pride in being a single dad raising a kid on my own. Patting myself on the back, I've done an amazing job. That was then, this is now.
Honor and integrity first.
Name it, I've done it. From bangs, to public play and dungeons to Pony training, needle and knife play (needles are a TOTAL mind fuck, but not much to them when you get down to it), CNC with a passion, bondage in all forms is a turn on and suspension work is creative and just great fun, electric play is a lot more fun than you think it is and who doesn't like a good rape fantasy brought to life?
Asphyxiation and choking are hot as fuck... and I LOVE getting my hands around your neck. It's the sound I get out of you that's so hot.
I've had my hands on some things I probably shouldn't have and that altered the way I understand things to be. Dark things I wouldn't repeat, but I know I'm better for it coming out the other side. I enjoy erotic photography and feel if done tastefully, there should be a place for it socially, but that requires vision and vision isn't exactly compatible with vanilla. Is it.
You could say I'm a sadist, but not for the sake of sadism. I enjoy it best when I'm with someone who really needs it. Then it's ON. Seriously.
I've trained couples and wives, worked with every comfort of gender identification and had my hands in just about everything. I identify heavily with D/s and I'm a protocol guy. I require lists for review before heavy handed play. Safety and honor are important. I've seen my share of hard core, extreme and light play, but I have a lot more to learn and get into as this is a never ending evolution. If you've thought about it, I've probably done it and I'll take you anywhere you need to go, or want to go... depending on perspective. I'm a firm believer in aftercare, but I only say that to make people think I'm a nice guy. ha
Seriously though, where the punishment fits the crime, the aftercare covers the evidence. It's needed.
I really enjoy building my own equipment. It's fun, engaging and satisfying. The last few projects came out a little better than I thought they would. Head in a box anyone? I've been absorbed expanding my house lately so they've been on the back burner. Ugh. I'll post up when it's done.
I like going where others dont and I usually take on things that others won't. It's been a rough road, but I've learned from it, so..... If you have an itch to go there... hop on. It's not as scary as you might think and it's a great ride.
BDSM is a code for personal purpose. Bones break, promises break, schedules break... all durable things with potent purposes and they still don't last, but connection when created with intent, purpose and direction, endures. The Lifestyle has been part of my mix most of my life. Being a dominant at times means you have to do things in a selfless way to make sure your sub is okay. And always there are certain things that come before me. On any day though I’m grabbing the air mask first. Dominance requires remaining level headed when there is little air in the cabin. There's an inherent responsibility for the well-being of the one that comes under me, so many things to put before myself, and while most of the time it's autopilot in the sense that there are just things that have become ingrained that I do as a matter of fact.
BDSM is a philosophy. There is a personal code needed in order to be more than you were. To hold more than I have, to provide more than is asked for, to be seen and understood clearly... all things that hold my feet to the fire.
"What miniskirt?"
So there's that I suppose.