SLO Lee

dom male

70

Single

Just because I chat with you does not mean I'm trying to be your D-type or assume you’re my S-type.  Such dynamics take time.  Just saying I'll chat with anyone and enjoy friendly banter.  Please have a GSOH (good sense of humor)

Much rather start by being your acquaintance, a friend to chat, laugh, share ideas, and may lead to more.  And if so, is there sufficient compatibility to meet, perhaps for coffee with no assumptions or expectations, yet perhaps with anticipation and hope.

I am not looking for a hookup, rather a desire something more, deeper, soft with a hard edge, romantic with adventure.  Age gaps are understandable and vary with perspective, though some are chasms I can't cross.  I am an occasional drinker - a glass of wine on a cozy evening, a cocktail at a party or a couple of beers when socializing out, sometimes by a fire with a cigar. I do not personally partake in 420 any more.  INTP-T

I am quiet, gentle, patient yet assertive gentleman for the most part. But, there is another part... 😉

That part wants to know you intimately, free to be our selves, open minded exploration to satisfy our inner innate natures, our physical and emotional needs, wants and desires.  The place where obedience is the highest honor bestowed and trust the absolute on currency.  BDSM test results and checklists are guides, my interests range from soft and sensual to stalking primal hunter, to induce and balance the tender and the tough, to hurt so good but not harm.  Yet I don't know what I don't know and I seek one to grow and glow together, two minds are greater than one. 

My BDSM checklist is a start and doesn't fully indicate the breadth of my interests and willingness to venture fourth.  Yes, fourth.  I think you should try things three times.  Once - it is new, nervous, anxious, mistakes happen so its not a fair example.  Second - been here once, you have a better idea of direction, confidence and comfortable.  Third - no excuses this time, if you were on the fence this should topple you over one side or the other.  FOURTH - to be or not to be.... 

Smoking as a habit. Overindulgence of 420.
Generally the most common ones, but understand limits are personal and can adjust with time, trust and togetherness.

After decades of vanilla marriage, I’m free to explore the part of me which seeks this LS. While not completely new, I know I have much to learn, much to gain and I’d like to build a real and sincere relationship with one as there is so much to learn, to experience and to enjoy. 

Looking for an intimate connection which can amplify the joy of a walk, biking, camping, campfires, movies, nice dinners, conversation, and simplicity of companionship on long drives going nowhere and anywhere.  All to say I seek the best in a relationship, I seek one with whom to give my best.  Therefore I seek an in person association (IPA), not solely online.  While I have a preference for NC and warmer climes, relocation is considered.

I am not as experienced as some, as smart as some, as philosophical as some, as rude as some, I am just me, you be just you.

Mar 3, 2026