I am an extremely warm, loving, affectionate, doting, nurturing, and sensual dominant.
While I am not sadistic, I do like bondage, and when I am in the mood, I will exercise controlled aggression and pursue primal play (safe, sane, and consensually, of course). While on the topic of SCC, I deeply respect my sub's limits, consistent with my belief in the Hippocratic oath: do no harm! I also practice Negative Utilitarianism because the removal of pain and suffering takes precedence over pleasure. After that, I believe that trust and consent — both of which are incredibly hot — must be earned.
In public, we are a seemingly normal, albeit attractive, couple about town. I adore holding hands, flirting, and showering you with discreet displays of affection, but I am mostly concerned with your safety outside the bedroom because I am fiercely protective.
In private, well, I need to fully dominate you sexually, emotionally, and psychologically. You are my forbidden lover, my drug of choice, submitting completely to my ravenous urges to love and devour you fully as I please and at my beckoning. Ultimately, I need to conquer you, to mark my territory. I will stretch you out and break you in. I need you to surrender and serve me. To worship me. I need your mind, body, and emotions to be the empty canvas on which I express my enduring romantic love and lustful passions.
The untethered kinky machinations of my mind hack your brain and endocrine system to be the garden in which I play freely. Your body is a map of where I have been. I lay my unrestrained, decadent claim to the totality of your existence. I shall use my impressive scientific and technical skills to dominate you in infinite granularity.
You shall be my loving, devoted sex slave with whom I have my way. I shall revel freely in your femininity because we both need that so, so badly. Ever the connoisseur of lingerie and sexy outfits, I need to dress and undress you as I please. I shall mold you to my needs and consume you — all of you — and in the process, ruin you for other men. They know to whom you belong; they know who protects you; they see you tethered to my primal urgency which only you can provide. In turn, they sense my territory and move along.
With extensive training in social science, including psychology, I am awash in intelligence and wisdom, possessing impeccable academic and professional praise in spades. I have always dispatched my academic rivals within and outside my specialty, with ease. This translates into me savoring a particular flavor of BDSM consisting of more than just a long checklist of sexual fantasies. It also consists of a profoundly deep emotional bond in which we learn and share everything about each other, experiencing unfathomably deep emotions, and the desire to grow together in all manner of ways. Let me lead us toward greatness.
There is a sophisticated cerebral element to my sensual domination, so if you fancy yourself a sapiosexual, then I may very well be the dom for you! Beyond my hunger to hack your mind and emotions, to engineer wild sexual escapades, you should recognize that I have the intelligence and wisdom to lead. And lead I shall because I am also attracted to elements of TiH, HoH, and DDLG. For me, BDSM is more than just soulful intimacy and scratch-at-the-wall sex; I am confident that I can avoid most problems while solving those that do arise. Most relationships are focused on all of the fun stuff at the beginning, but you will come to understand that I can weather any of life's storms when they hit. So really, what it comes down to, is that I need to be the leader and decisionmaker. Whether is is in my personal life, professional life, or academic life, things just seem to work out when I am the one making the decisions. I am fully confident in my intellect and ability to deal with anything.
Dominating my sub/slave in the most loving, erotic, passionate, trusting, and protective way is not some role I would like to play or some arbitrary scene I have planned. It is simply who I am, imprinted deep in my soul and transcribed onto my DNA for as long as I can remember. I am natural, and naturally dominant, par excellence. I am not interested in a "lifestyle," but I am interested in — indeed, I need — the intense chemistry and unbreakable connection in which I earn carte blanche to exercise my baser instincts over all of you.
Oh, I am also monogamous*. I have never cheated and I am fully confident to declare that I never will. That is not who I am, plain and simple. I just don't get it, I really don't! I must be wired for monogamy because I have never even been tempted. While I am currently single, I am uninterested in casual sex, hookups, "scenes", and really any kind of physical/sexual activity devoid of a longterm, emotionally-healthy commitment. I need the friendship and happiness. The kind of joie de vivre that comes with celebrating my sub's femininity and womanhood. I am looking for Ms. Right, not Ms. Right Now :-)
Sating your hunger to submit to me, and mine to dominate you, is it so wrong to yearn for both a heartwarming friendship and a joyous romance that lasts a lifetime? It is not enough for me to be a part of your life or a part of your journey, but rather I demand to be all of your life and all of your journey. I shall be your everything. Please me and serve me. Love me and admire me. Exalt me and worship me. Pledge your undying loyalty to me and only me. Devote your life to me, hungering to make real my every dream and fantasy. As I earn more and more ownership and control over you — my obedient, kept, and prized possession — together we journey into the blissful abyss.
Because the only thing I care about is us! You and me against the world, and nothing — absolutely nothing — will come between us!
* I am monogamous, but fascinated by the possibility of a three-way FMF relationship (triad), provided, of course, that full trust and consent are in effect among all parties.
On the prowl for my sex kitten, here are some scattered, somewhat related thoughts:
I am not a "bad boy," but rather a good boy with an intensely naughty and dominant — yet loving and romantic — streak. It's very much a Jekyll and Hyde thing, sans the evil nature of Mr. Hyde, to be replaced with an alter ego of a horny devil. Or perhaps envision me as the brilliant, attractive young professorial type whose appetite for dominance behind closed doors would make even the most seasoned college administrator blush. I hold sway over more than just scads of inspired students in a lecture hall.
For those of you with a scientific bent, I engender the best combination of dad and cad: I would like to put a ring on your finger and a collar around your neck ;-)
Aftercare, beforecare, duringcare, and totalcare. Have I mentioned my predilection for hopeless romanticism? Because with me, there is no such thing as too much hugging, cuddling, kissing, caressing, hand-holding, laughter, and happiness. ;-)
I like using a menu as a metaphor: my sub's mind and body are on the menu and I will pick a choose different "items" as I please, so I definitely need a "go-with-the-flow" kind of gal ;-)
I am also a quintessential highly sensitive person (HSP), so exercising complete, unbridled dominance over my lover feels like some kind of addictive sex magick.
My ideal life would consist of spending as much quality time as possible with my lover, after which intellectual interests, good food, and some travel would follow, in that order. I used to be a starving artist a long time ago, and as much as I would also like to incorporate that into my life, I just do not see having the time to really pursue that. But it is an easy sacrifice when I fill my time by imprinting all of my desires on my lover.
Do no harm!
I am also drug and disease free, and I plan to keep it that way.
I have been a passive user of this site for a while now, mostly perusing the personals section and skimming through some blog entries. This profile has become a work in progress, so please check back often, or better yet, love my profile and drop me a line!
Still searching for my forever lover; my perfect playmate; my loving fluffer; my fuck toy; my BFF with kinky benefits.
*** Before contacting me, please provide the following pieces of information:
General location relative to me
Relationship status (must be single or divorced)
Living arrangement (own or rent, number of roommates, etc)
Age
Height
Weight
Body Mass Index (BMI)
Hair color
Eye color
Regarding pics: using discretion so as to maintain your privacy, please send tasteful, non-nude pics (in lingerie, pajamas, swimsuit, etc) of the following:
Body pic(s)
Upper body pic(s) showing décolletage and collar bones
Tattoo pic(s), listing their location(s)
Also, face pics are not needed, but if you do decide to send them, then send publicly-available face pics (from social media, for example) in order for you to maintain plausible deniability.
UPDATE:
You must be willing to undergo some reasonable lifestyle and body modifications, such as:
Weight loss: If you are overweight, then I will help you get lean and healthy, but you must be willing to make the change. Being lean and healthy is sexy! I want you to be my healthy, sexy sub. Healthy, sustainable weight loss is mostly about cutting calories (in part, by eating healthy) and, to a lesser extent, exercising, which also has outsized benefits on one’s overall health unrelated to weight loss.
Tattoo removal: I am not fond of tattoos. That is just a personal preference, and I do not judge your personal character, but I am simply not attracted to them. Perhaps a small heart on your inner wrist *might* be tolerable, but I am attracted to women with yummy, soft, tattoo-free skin. If you have tattoos, then you must be willing to get them removed.
Smoking/drug use: Smoking and drug use do not work with me. If you drink alcohol, then it must be very moderate and responsible.
Excessive piercings: Tasteful earrings (and not too many) are always lovely, but I am not attracted to nose rings, lip rings, and the like.
Hair styles: Sorry, but I like natural hair color or hair that has been expertly dyed to look natural. I am not attracted to purple (or whatever color) hair or shaved hair styles (not even partially) or the like. Again, just a personal preference; I do not make any kind of assumptions about you or your personality.
Hair removal: Your body should be hair-free. And that extends to the not-so-obvious areas like arms and upper lip, as well.
Vaccinations: You should be vaccinated against the typical scourges (MMR, Polio, Diphtheria and Tetanus, etc.) as well as COVID.